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#BingingSober vs Abstinence: Redefining Mental Toughness Can Expedite Recovery, Colleen Ryan-Hensley

BingingSober vs Abstinence: Redefining Mental Toughness Can Expedite Recovery, Colleen Ryan-Hensley

Are you or someone you know struggling with sobriety?

Then stick around, because in this episode of the Mental Health Toolbox, we are talking with Navy Veteran, Colleen Ryan-Hensley, founder of the #BingingSober Movement.

In today’s society, abstinence can be seen as the only “moral” way to approach addiction. However, this couldn’t be further from the truth. In this post, I’m sharing #BingingSober vs Abstinence: Redefining Mental Toughness Can Expedite Recovery, with Colleen Ryan-Hensley.

Mental toughness is key when it comes to overcoming addiction. Unfortunately, many people define mental toughness in a way that denies addiction exists. In this episode, Colleen Ryan-Hensley shares her story of breaking free from an addiction using a new definition of mental toughness that acknowledges addiction exists and can be overcome. If you’re looking for an alternative to abstinence, then read on.



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#BingingSober vs Abstinence: Redefining Mental Toughness Can Expedite Recovery, Colleen Ryan-Hensley

Escapism is the single biggest threat to the health of our society and the #1 cause of the current mental health crisis.


What is
#BingingSober?

An online educational resource to guide you through the practice of #BingingSober. Once the foundation is set, a personally tailored point system is constructed – a blueprint for living well. Point values are assigned to habits and used to redirect energy to where you need it the most. The result is increased awareness, control and balance of your life.

https://www.bingingsober.com/

Learn More About Colleen Ryan-Hensley And The #BingingSober Movement

CONTACT AND SOCIALS:

-Website: https://www.bingingsober.com

-Instagram: https://instagram.com/colleenryanhensley

-Lin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cryanhensley/


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#BingingSober vs Abstinence: How Redefining Mental Toughness Can Expedite Recovery and Prevent Escapism – With Navy Veteran, Colleen Ryan-Hensley

Ep.70 Are you or someone you know struggling with sobriety? Then stick around, because in this episode of the Mental Health Toolbox, we are talking with Navy Veteran, Colleen Ryan-Hensley, founder of the #BingingSober Movement, on how redefining mental toughness can expedite recovery and prevent escapism.








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Welcome to The Mental Health Toolbox podcast, where our mission is to empower therapists and enlighten individuals on their mental health journey.

My name is Patrick Martin, your host, I am an LCSW, AKA psychotherapist by trade.

As a dedicated therapist, I have always believed in the power of knowledge and resources in the field of mental health. Recognizing the need for a space that bridges the gap between professionals and those seeking help, The Mental Health Toolbox was born.

Our aim is to equip other therapists with effective tools to enhance their practice and service delivery. We understand the importance of staying updated with the latest research, techniques, and trends in mental health. Therefore, we curate high-quality, evidence-based resources, ensuring you have the best tools at your disposal.

Simultaneously, we are committed to educating consumers with essential knowledge to thrive. We believe that everyone deserves access to reliable, understandable, and actionable mental health information. Our resources are designed to demystify mental health, promoting understanding, empathy, and self-care.

Through our Newsletter, Blog, Podcast, YouTube Channel, Workbooks, and Courses, we hope to create a community that fosters learning, growth, and wellness. Each edition will bring you insightful articles, tips, interviews, and advice to support your journey, whether you're a mental health professional seeking to enhance your practice or an individual striving for better mental well-being.
Join us at The Mental Health Toolbox as we work together to build a world where mental health care is effective, accessible, and understood by all. Let's learn, grow, and thrive together.

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Welcome to The Mental Health Toolbox podcast, where our mission is to empower therapists and enlighten individuals on their mental health journey.

My name is Patrick Martin, your host, I am an LCSW, AKA psychotherapist by trade.

As a dedicated therapist, I have always believed in the power of knowledge and resources in the field of mental health. Recognizing the need for a space that bridges the gap between professionals and those seeking help, The Mental Health Toolbox was born.

Our aim is to equip other therapists with effective tools to enhance their practice and service delivery. We understand the importance of staying updated with the latest research, techniques, and trends in mental health. Therefore, we curate high-quality, evidence-based resources, ensuring you have the best tools at your disposal.

Simultaneously, we are committed to educating consumers with essential knowledge to thrive. We believe that everyone deserves access to reliable, understandable, and actionable mental health information. Our resources are designed to demystify mental health, promoting understanding, empathy, and self-care.

Through our Newsletter, Blog, Podcast, YouTube Channel, Workbooks, and Courses, we hope to create a community that fosters learning, growth, and wellness. Each edition will bring you insightful articles, tips, interviews, and advice to support your journey, whether you're a mental health professional seeking to enhance your practice or an individual striving for better mental well-being.
Join us at The Mental Health Toolbox as we work together to build a world where mental health care is effective, accessible, and understood by all. Let's learn, grow, and thrive together.

Welcome to The Mental Health Toolbox podcast, where our mission is to empower therapists and enlighten individuals on their mental health journey.

My name is Patrick Martin, your host, I am an LCSW, AKA psychotherapist by trade.

As a dedicated therapist, I have always believed in the power of knowledge and resources in the field of mental health. Recognizing the need for a space that bridges the gap between professionals and those seeking help, The Mental Health Toolbox was born.

Our aim is to equip other therapists with effective tools to enhance their practice and service delivery. We understand the importance of staying updated with the latest research, techniques, and trends in mental health. Therefore, we curate high-quality, evidence-based resources, ensuring you have the best tools at your disposal.

Simultaneously, we are committed to educating consumers with essential knowledge to thrive. We believe that everyone deserves access to reliable, understandable, and actionable mental health information. Our resources are designed to demystify mental health, promoting understanding, empathy, and self-care.

Through our Newsletter, Blog, Podcast, YouTube Channel, Workbooks, and Courses, we hope to create a community that fosters learning, growth, and wellness. Each edition will bring you insightful articles, tips, interviews, and advice to support your journey, whether you're a mental health professional seeking to enhance your practice or an individual striving for better mental well-being.
Join us at The Mental Health Toolbox as we work together to build a world where mental health care is effective, accessible, and understood by all. Let's learn, grow, and thrive together.



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00:00:00 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

The spectrum is habitual. 

00:00:01 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Escapism, like you’re saying the hemorrhaging to purposeful conscious escape. 

00:00:07 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

We all escape. 

00:00:08 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

It’s a natural part of life. 

00:00:10 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Nothing wrong with that, but to be able to manage it. 

00:00:13 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Be aware of it, balance it, control it, manage it, then you’re managing your energy as well and we’re all running around sick. 

00:00:20 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

And tired and wondering why? 

00:00:22 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

We’re binge eating, binge drinking, binge watching, binge shopping, doing all of these things. 

00:00:27 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Trying to make ourselves feel better. 

00:00:30 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

And reach this ideal mental state that none of those things in excess and abuse are going to get us there. 

00:00:36 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

So you know, for me, you know. 

00:00:39 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

When I say. 

00:00:39 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Binging sober the sober is a lack of intoxication from any of these unhealthy mind numbing things that you may lean on, and it’s different for all of us and those things impact all of us differently, so it’s. 

00:00:50 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

A very you know individualized idea. 

00:00:54 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Are you or someone you know struggling with sobriety? Then stick around? Because in this episode of the mental Health Toolbox we are talking with Colleen Ryan Hensley, who is a 10 year Navy veteran mental health advocate and mental health toughness expert, founder of #binging sober, a rewards based system. 

00:01:14 Patrick Martin LCSW 

That enables people to develop steps, habits, and beliefs that impact their vitality. 

00:01:20 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Colleen shares the process that she has used to thrive with depression, alcohol abuse and post traumatic stress. 

00:01:27 Patrick Martin LCSW 

So let’s. 

00:01:29 Patrick Martin LCSW 

You can learn more about Colleen’s work by visiting her sitebingingsober.com. I’ll be sure to link up to all of the resources in the description as usual. 

00:01:39 Patrick Martin LCSW 

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00:01:46 Patrick Martin LCSW 

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00:01:48 Patrick Martin LCSW 

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00:01:56 Patrick Martin LCSW 

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00:02:00 Patrick Martin LCSW 

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00:02:05 Patrick Martin LCSW 

To say thank you. 

00:02:13 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Welcome Colleen to the mental health toolbox. 

00:02:16 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Thank you so much for making time to be on today. 

00:02:19 Patrick Martin LCSW 

First of all, thank you for your service and I love the work you’re doing around sobriety, and I’m excited to dive in and hear more about your journey, which I know is multilayered and multifaceted and all of the Nuggets of wisdom you’ve gleaned from your experience to share with our listeners. 

00:02:36 Patrick Martin LCSW 

On how to leverage. 

00:02:39 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Personal development tools and skills to thrive and maintain sobriety. 

00:02:45 Patrick Martin LCSW 

So let’s do it. 

00:02:47 Patrick Martin LCSW 

You want to share a little bit about yourself and what you what you’re about and what you what you have to share your experience. 

00:02:54 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Of course, well, first of all, thank you so much for having me, and it was totally my honor to serve in the Navy. 

00:03:02 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

The world’s greatest Navy. I got out. 

00:03:04 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

12 years ago. 

00:03:05 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

So I’ve been in for 11. 

00:03:06 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I’ve been out longer which. 

00:03:07 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Seems insane to me. 

00:03:09 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

It’s like a totally different lifetime. 

00:03:11 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

You know my my background is in performance psychology. 

00:03:11 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Yeah, I bet. 

00:03:16 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I got interested in that in the military. 

00:03:21 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I recently developed a program called #binging sober that I developed from a process that I’ve been using for two decades inside and outside of the Navy. Now I formally developed it recently because I. 

00:03:42 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I healed. 

00:03:44 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I am a huge mental health advocate and. 

00:03:48 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Buried a trauma for 15 years and so I really have made it my mission to redefine what we consider our mental toughness as a society. 

00:04:01 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Because in my story. 

00:04:04 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

My mental toughness. 

00:04:05 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I totally latched onto before the military and during the military really stood in the way of my healing, so I mean, that’s really, you know, the kind. 

00:04:17 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Of the basis of of. 

00:04:19 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Why I’m here? 

00:04:20 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

To talk to you? 

00:04:21 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Ohh, I appreciate that and I imagine that’s not a unique. 

00:04:27 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Experience is learning how to stuff. 

00:04:30 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Contain your feelings in order to assimilate to that lifestyle. 

00:04:35 Patrick Martin LCSW 

And now I never served, so I’m Speaking of course, as a as a noob, but I really. 

00:04:39 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Have no I, you know no personal experience in serving, but I do hear that a lot with people I’ve interviewed and people. 

00:04:47 Patrick Martin LCSW 

I have known personally who have served is that it is a process learning to. 

00:04:53 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Have thin skin again after you get out right to not be as guarded to honor your feelings and and open up to people and trust other people too with those feelings right? 

00:05:05 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Because again, I can’t speak from any personal experience, but I understand I could understand there’s a certain. 

00:05:11 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Mindset you have to get into in order to thrive in that type of envy. 

00:05:16 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

It’s mission first. 

00:05:17 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I mean, you’re really not thinking about. 

00:05:18 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Yourself, but for. 

00:05:19 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Me, it started before that it started. 

00:05:21 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Before that I was depressed in my adolescence. 

00:05:25 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

My parents were divorced or getting divorced, so it’s a pretty. 

00:05:29 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

It was a pretty unhealthy environment at home for a while until my father, you know, until they separated. 

00:05:35 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

That’s actually when. 

00:05:36 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

It got better. 

00:05:38 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

And then my grandfather, who served in the Navy as you and I were just talking about. 

00:05:43 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

He really inspired my Navy service. 

00:05:46 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

So I always wanted to join the Navy since I was a little bitty listening to his story. 

00:05:50 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

He passed unexpectedly. 

00:05:52 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

He was my main source of support and just comfort and just my male role model. 

00:05:57 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

So that was really difficult for me. 

00:05:59 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

That’s really when I started burying things and using these unhealthy mind numbing. 

00:06:05 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Substances and escapism. 

00:06:07 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

SMS to start burying those feelings. When I joined the Navy at 21, that’s when I felt mentally and physically ready and it was just kind of like the next step for me. Because, you know, growing up in the. 

00:06:18 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

80s Nobody was talking about. 

00:06:21 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Any of this? 

00:06:22 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I didn’t know what was quote wrong with me. 

00:06:25 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

There was nothing wrong, but I was being treated that way. 

00:06:29 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

My parents were worried, you know, my school counselors were worried, you know all the et cetera, et cetera. 

00:06:34 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

And it was more of this. 

00:06:36 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Rub some dirt on it and get back in the game. 

00:06:39 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Type of mental toughness which I totally, totally understand it’s necessary to, you know, thrive during stressful situations and during challenges. 

00:06:48 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Of course, this resilience is important, but 

00:06:52 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I’m sure I. 

00:06:53 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Don’t have to tell you that a lot of times during those stressful situations you know there’s residual energy. 

00:06:59 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

There’s residual feelings. 

00:07:01 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

There’s things that we’ve been. 

00:07:02 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Taught to as a. 

00:07:03 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Society not even just the military. 

00:07:05 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I mean the military just kind of takes it one step further. 

00:07:08 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

But as a. 

00:07:09 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Society we’re not used to talking about things. 

00:07:12 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

We’re not used to. 

00:07:14 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

And embracing this entire half of the spectrum of emotions and pain and discomfort and trauma, we’re not used to embracing. 

00:07:23 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Embracing it as a just natural part of a whole life. 

00:07:28 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Yet I think we’re on our way, but that’s what I mean when I talk about redefining mental toughness to not just include the resilience. 

00:07:36 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Portion, but go back to the feelings that were left behind. 

00:07:39 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Go back to that experience and and and process it later. 

00:07:43 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Make sure that you do because that’s the kind of stuff that then leads to all of this. 

00:07:49 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Habitual escapism that we’re all experiencing. 

00:07:52 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Thing I believe it’s the number one threat to our mental health as a society is all of these things that we have access in excess. 

00:08:01 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

There’s so much of it. 

00:08:02 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

And it’s distracting us from living our real lives and what triggers that a lot of times are those feelings that we left behind. 

00:08:13 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Because we’re not used to going back. 

00:08:14 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

And dealing with them. 

00:08:16 Patrick Martin LCSW 

I would even yeah, I agree 100% and I would even go a step further and. 

00:08:20 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Say that even outside of maybe vices, right? 

00:08:24 Patrick Martin LCSW 

I mean protected time to have quiet peace, time to think, time to be with ourselves is kind of a a challenge, right? 

00:08:34 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Because there’s so many things competing for our attention which add to the stress and our stressors right? 

00:08:41 Patrick Martin LCSW 

That could also lead to escapism. 

00:08:44 Patrick Martin LCSW 

For their escapism, right? 

00:08:46 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Downward spiral. 

00:08:48 Patrick Martin LCSW 

And so many so many people I talked to so many clients I’ve I’ve dealt with one of the main complaints I have is the racing thoughts before bed. 

00:08:55 Patrick Martin LCSW 

The anxiety at bedtime. 

00:08:56 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Why is it always at night time and you know it almost always points back to the fact that there’s not enough. 

00:09:02 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Yeah, quiet time for the brain during the day to decompress to process. 

00:09:06 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Exactly, and that’s like that. 

00:09:08 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Self connection comes before the self regulation that a lot of people are lacking that also, you know contributes to that spiral of escape and that spiral. 

00:09:18 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I keep saying it because I’m sure you’ve seen it in all of these stats and mental health and suicide the downward spiral they were caught in a downward spiral. 

00:09:26 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Well, that takes. 

00:09:27 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

All of the power and all of the responsibility off of that person, and so it’s so important that we do own. 

00:09:33 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I mean exactly like. 

00:09:34 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

You’re saying, take the time, make the space and and reflect. 

00:09:40 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Right? 

00:09:40 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

And you’ll be. 

00:09:41 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Able to develop that willpower that then gives you more peace throughout your day and the ability to control and manage these distractions that are just overwhelming. 

00:09:51 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

If we don’t control them, they’re controlling us. 

00:09:53 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Absolutely goes back to that. 

00:09:54 Patrick Martin LCSW 

That frame of mind that ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure right takes so much longer to recover from burnout, which I know is kind of a catch phrase these days. 

00:10:04 Patrick Martin LCSW 

But burnouts are a real problem, and that’s why it’s getting so much attention, and for good reason. 

00:10:10 Patrick Martin LCSW 

But it takes a lot longer to recover from burnout. 

00:10:12 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Or addiction than it does to maintain mental health. 

00:10:18 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Incrementally, right, consistently. 

00:10:22 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Would you because? 

00:10:23 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

From my perspective, you know I’ve been asking a. 

00:10:26 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Lot of. 

00:10:27 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Experts in mental health lately like. 

00:10:30 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Do you feel like there is a place for. 

00:10:35 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

A place, and I guess I guess like the space and the access and do. 

00:10:42 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

You feel like. 

00:10:43 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Proactive preventative mental health is a thing yet. 

00:10:49 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Or do you feel like a lot of people you see a lot of people in crisis and that’s it? 

00:10:55 Patrick Martin LCSW 

I feel like. 

00:10:58 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Definitely a thing, but I feel like it’s been packaged under different. 

00:11:03 Patrick Martin LCSW 

You know different labels. 

00:11:04 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Life coaching and life. 

00:11:06 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Right? 

00:11:06 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Which is why I you know if you remember about 10 years ago because the word mental health has so much stigma wrapped around it. 

00:11:14 Patrick Martin LCSW 

So taboo, that’s when you started seeing these Wellness centers. 

00:11:18 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Pop-up Wellness is a lot. 

00:11:20 Patrick Martin LCSW 

More an acceptable term. 

00:11:22 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Such as mental toughness. 

00:11:24 Patrick Martin LCSW 

And when we say mental health, right? 

00:11:26 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Mental health. 

00:11:26 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Oh, there’s something wrong with you right now. 

00:11:29 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Now it’s getting cooler to see if therapist, but that wasn’t always the case and it’s for a lot of people and a lot of populations. 

00:11:34 Patrick Martin LCSW 

It’s still very stigmatizing, and there’s still a lot of friction and the big. 

00:11:38 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Matter is worse I. 

00:11:40 Patrick Martin LCSW 

People don’t realize who haven’t tried to work on themselves, at least formally. 

00:11:45 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Is that it’s not as simple as picking up a phone and saying, oh I’m ready to see. 

00:11:49 Patrick Martin LCSW 

A therapist now. 

00:11:51 

Right? 

00:11:51 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Ohh I can see you in six. 

00:11:53 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Months, right months. 

00:11:55 Patrick Martin LCSW 

What do you mean it takes 3 months to see a psychiatrist and so access to care even and you know, in spite of the pandemic. 

00:12:03 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Which is horrible, right? It has opened up a lot of doors to access to caribia telehealth. But even with that, now that everyone’s on board with telehealth, it’s still. It’s still a supply and demand issue. And so you know. 

00:12:18 Patrick Martin LCSW 

The work you’re doing is is. 

00:12:20 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Crucial because it’s raising more awareness around. 

00:12:24 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Personal hygiene, self mental hygiene, self-care. It’s not just. 

00:12:31 Patrick Martin LCSW 

As simple as ohh you know go talk to someone or process your feelings. 

00:12:35 Patrick Martin LCSW 

It’s a holistic approach and we have to take a very proactive approach when it comes to taking care of our mental health because it’s not something else that’s going to get fixed overnight by somebody else when you’re ready. 

00:12:47 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Yeah, yeah, and that’s I mean that’s with fellow veterans that I’ve talked to with, you know, a lot of the the residual or maintained stigma. 

00:13:00 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

A lot of it is you know, frustration or these you know, I hear these stories of of of suicide. 

00:13:07 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Around you know veterans, et cetera, that they were trying to or working toward getting the help. 

00:13:14 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

But it was quote too late and that’s you know, there, there’s my point like there is, you’re waiting, we are, we are I’m not saying you know one particular person. 

00:13:24 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I’m saying as a society we’re waiting too long. 

00:13:28 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Be proactive or be you know, being corrective or trying to be correct corrective and then when you’re in crisis. 

00:13:34 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Oh my gosh, now it’s like wait now it’s super frustrating to wait three months for an appointment that you know I mean. 

00:13:40 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

That’s my hope for this program is that it can. 

00:13:46 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Inspire like this adventure that I’ve discovered is is all of this is mental health hygiene. 

00:13:54 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Like you said. 

00:13:55 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I mean, it’s it’s fascinating. 

00:13:57 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

It’s just that we don’t take the time to do it. 

00:13:59 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

And I know it’s easy to say on like the other side of you know my healing or I mean it’s a process. 

00:14:05 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I’m still managing depression. 

00:14:07 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I’m still managing PTSD like it’s not something that goes away. 

00:14:11 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

It’s just having those tools and peeling back layers and going before the trauma going before the depression and understanding and connecting with yourself. 

00:14:20 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Like in such a. 

00:14:20 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Way that that. 

00:14:23 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

That resilience actually becomes almost less necessary because you’re in harmony. 

00:14:29 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

You know, with the world, I know it’s easy to say. 

00:14:33 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

On this side of it, but I really want to inspire that with other people that. 

00:14:39 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

There’s some work that you can do on your own while you’re waiting for your first appointment, there’s you know there’s thought processes that you can interrupt and simply. 

00:14:51 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Turn off your television for like you were saying, like turn it off for an hour earlier at night. 

00:14:56 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I mean, there’s so many different things, little easy things that we can do to start creating that space. 

00:15:02 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Absolutely, systems and processes to keep ourselves accountable for our own mental health right on a micro skilling on counseling we talk a lot about scaling right goals, but we can scale personal. 

00:15:15 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Self-care right? And like you said and have. 

00:15:18 Patrick Martin LCSW 

These rules be set. 

00:15:19 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Up right, maybe when I get. 

00:15:21 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Up, you know, one of my rules is I don’t. 

00:15:23 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Look at my phone for. 

00:15:25 Patrick Martin LCSW 

45 minutes after I get up. 

00:15:27 Patrick Martin LCSW 

I don’t. 

00:15:27 Patrick Martin LCSW 

I won’t look at it. 

00:15:28 Patrick Martin LCSW 

You know I’ll have my coffee. 

00:15:30 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Ideally, I’ll do some stretches. 

00:15:32 Patrick Martin LCSW 

I’ll put my dogs who’s right behind me. 

00:15:34 

Ohh it’s off. 

00:15:35 

It’s off. 

00:15:38 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I have four of them, but the patch. 

00:15:39 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Always he always makes his cameo in my videos. 

00:15:43 Patrick Martin LCSW 

So he’s my first obligation when I wake up before my. 

00:15:45 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Kids get up. 

00:15:47 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Do some stretches but the dog. 

00:15:50 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Have some moments of gratitude, right? 

00:15:52 

Yes, yeah. 

00:15:54 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Spare, you know, go out. 

00:15:55 Patrick Martin LCSW 

You know, maybe get a little fresh air and this can all happen within 10 minutes. 

00:15:58 Patrick Martin LCSW 

You know it doesn’t take. 

00:16:00 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Yes, I see you. 

00:16:00 Patrick Martin LCSW 

It doesn’t take much work. 

00:16:04 Patrick Martin LCSW 

It just takes forethought and rules parameters, right? 

00:16:08 Patrick Martin LCSW 

And so I want to click on my phone and turn off do not disturb until I’ve generally done that. 

00:16:13 

You have that. 

00:16:14 Patrick Martin LCSW 

And like you said with other distractions, the TV right the phone because whatever it is, you know. 

00:16:21 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Like we had said, there’s always something demanding our attention. 

00:16:24 Patrick Martin LCSW 

And so we have to be on the offense, right? 

00:16:27 Patrick Martin LCSW 

That’s saying, the best best defense is a good offense, right? 

00:16:30 Patrick Martin LCSW 

When it comes to our mental health and I know you have some very specific strategies right around sobriety and. 

00:16:39 Patrick Martin LCSW 

How we can protect against? 

00:16:42 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Addiction and further traumatization and and you know. 

00:16:47 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Stopping the hemorrhage of of that spiral you were talking about and and problems and. 

00:16:49 

Yeah, I. 

00:16:54 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Stressors or how we mitigate the stress and how then how we get to a place of maintaining our health and so. 

00:17:01 Patrick Martin LCSW 

But yeah, it just it doesn’t. 

00:17:02 Patrick Martin LCSW 

It doesn’t have to be all or. 

00:17:03 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Nothing right. 

00:17:04 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Life is a spectrum for spectrum. 

00:17:05 

Oh my gosh. 

00:17:05 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Exactly and I I love the sober, curious movement. 

00:17:10 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

It’s huge right now. 

00:17:12 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

It’s gaining momentum every year. 

00:17:14 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

There’s over 40 something million people estimated you know involved in that that are questioning their. 

00:17:19 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Relationship with alcohol. 

00:17:20 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Well, that’s lovely, and that’s a great place to start. 

00:17:24 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

That’s a toxic. 

00:17:25 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

State that’s 

00:17:26 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

So accessible and so socially acceptable, and I. 

00:17:29 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Do not believe. 

00:17:30 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

In 100% abstinence, I know that there are people that need to do that, and that that’s true. That’s on the one. 

00:17:38 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

End of the spectrum there’s. 

00:17:40 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

The spectrum is habitual. 

00:17:41 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Escapism, like you’re saying the hemorrhaging to purposeful conscious escape. 

00:17:47 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

We all escape. 

00:17:49 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

It’s a natural part of. 

00:17:50 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

There’s nothing wrong with that, but to be able to to manage it. 

00:17:53 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Be aware of it. 

00:17:54 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Balance it, control it, manage it, then you’re managing your energy as well and we’re all running around. 

00:18:00 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Sick and tired and wondering why yet? 

00:18:03 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

We’re binge eating, binge drinking. 

00:18:04 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Binge watching, binge shopping. 

00:18:06 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Doing all of these things. 

00:18:08 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Trying to make. 

00:18:08 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Ourselves feel better. 

00:18:10 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

And reach this ideal mental state that none of those things in excess and abuse are going to. 

00:18:15 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Get us there. 

00:18:16 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

So you know, for me, you know when I say binging sober, the sober is a lack of intoxication from any of these unhealthy, mind numbing things that you may lean on. 

00:18:26 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

And it’s different for all of us. 

00:18:27 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

And those things impact all of us differently. 

00:18:29 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

So it’s. 

00:18:30 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

A very you know individualized idea. 

00:18:33 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Could you say more about that? 

00:18:34 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Because I think that maybe that power term there is intoxication. 

00:18:38 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Right? 

00:18:38 Patrick Martin LCSW 

That’s kind of the qualifier, right? 

00:18:40 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Yeah, yeah, we don’t see a lot of these things as. 

00:18:44 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

And just having the awareness around what that means for you. 

00:18:48 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

You know there’s a point, just that awareness. 

00:18:50 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Like hey, maybe I should question my relationship. 

00:18:54 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

For me this is where #binging sober was born. I had a very unhealthy relationship with alcohol starting in my teens in the Navy and in society in general, you know. 

00:19:04 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Like I was saying, very socially acceptable. 

00:19:06 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

It’s toxic. 

00:19:07 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

It’s not ever going to be not toxic like there’s it is a toxic escapism. 

00:19:14 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

And so. 

00:19:18 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Once I started to manage that with support and question it and look at it, then it became and I was a. 

00:19:27 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I was a binge drinker. 

00:19:29 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I mean, I could go. 

00:19:30 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I would go weeks months. 

00:19:32 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

But then I would binge drink and feel terrible and which is, you know. 

00:19:36 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Also not healthy. 

00:19:37 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

And so once I started to manage that and. 

00:19:41 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

There were things underneath of it. 

00:19:43 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Then I was discovering that I was just overusing other things that were making me feel intoxicated. 

00:19:49 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

And when I say intoxicated, you know, I think that there’s something that we are all searching for when. 

00:19:54 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

We lean on these things. 

00:19:56 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

This this like I said, ideal mental state this mental state, whether or not we’re conscious of this or not, but you’re obviously reaching to feel better. 

00:20:05 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

You know, in some way in that moment and so. 

00:20:09 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

That would be sobriety. In the case of #binging sober, is that lack of intoxication? In my experience in having practiced this for years and years, like I said, formally developing it over. 

00:20:23 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

The past two three years. 

00:20:27 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

It takes. 

00:20:29 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

A sober binge is 24. 

00:20:30 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Hours that’s it. 

00:20:32 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

But it’s a. 

00:20:33 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

It’s a purposeful conscious 24 hours where you’re tracking one thing or multiple things and you’re connecting with yourself taking that time and that space. 

00:20:44 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

So it’s not just about doing. 

00:20:45 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

It, but hey, how am I? 

00:20:46 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Feeling not doing. 

00:20:47 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

This or what can I do? 

00:20:49 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Who that would reverse the impact if I do decide to do this, and so you’re really learning or getting a keen awareness of how these things are truly impacting you as an individual. 

00:21:00 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Not, you know, you know that. 

00:21:02 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

What impacts you in one way could impact me in a totally. 

00:21:05 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Different way. 

00:21:07 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

That’s and side effects, and all of those. 

00:21:09 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Things that you read about. 

00:21:10 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

To learn about those, you know, take them with a grain of salt because they could impact you in a totally different. 

00:21:18 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Worse way, you know. 

00:21:19 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

So really, learning yourself. 

00:21:21 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

In a manner that. 

00:21:24 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

That helps you make more informed. 

00:21:26 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Decisions you know. 

00:21:28 Patrick Martin LCSW 

I love that absolutely because one thing we know is what gets measured gets improved right. 

00:21:34 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Small tweaks can lead to giant peaks in terms of insight and really become the levers that we know to pull. 

00:21:40 Patrick Martin LCSW 

And we talk about this a lot in mental health, not just in sobriety and motivational interviewing. 

00:21:45 Patrick Martin LCSW 

And that kind of thing. 

00:21:45 Patrick Martin LCSW 

But when it comes to coping skills. 

00:21:48 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Right, if somebody wants to feel less anxious, well, a lot of the times that comes by taking an inventory. 

00:21:54 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Of their thoughts of their routine, of whether time is going, I know. 

00:21:59 Patrick Martin LCSW 

It sounds like yeah, it’s not exactly. 

00:22:00 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I don’t know. 

00:22:02 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Exactly Einstein stuff, right? 

00:22:03 Patrick Martin LCSW 

But like you said, it’s the. 

00:22:07 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Putting our intention and our intention, attention together and making a concerted effort to do the work to slow down long enough. 

00:22:16 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Enough to look at what’s happening? 

00:22:19 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Yeah, to see what points of intervention there potentially are for future implications and and in terms of change, right? 

00:22:28 Patrick Martin LCSW 

And what needs are being served and men, how we can better meet those needs without. 

00:22:34 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Unnecessary suffering. 

00:22:36 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Yeah, exactly right, and I think where a lot of us are so used to the unnecessary suffering that you think it’s like just a part of life when really it could be these things that are. 

00:22:49 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Available to us that we’re leaning on that, in my experience are causing a lot of that unnecessary suffering. 

00:22:58 Patrick Martin LCSW 

When we talk about radical acceptance, yeah, hence. 

00:23:01 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

We all have more control than we give. 

00:23:02 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Ourselves credit for yeah. 

00:23:04 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Absolutely, and we talk about radical acceptance. 

00:23:07 Patrick Martin LCSW 

We’re not talking about accepting unnecessary suffering. 

00:23:09 Patrick Martin LCSW 

We’re talking about accepting the things. 

00:23:12 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Cannot be changed, right? 

00:23:14 Patrick Martin LCSW 

There’s a big difference. 

00:23:15 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Yeah, yeah, technology. 

00:23:16 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Avoidable suffering implies that we have some control in the outcome. 

00:23:20 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Yes, yes we were talking about attribution control where you put your you know where you put your control, who you blame for, what you know. 

00:23:27 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

And so there are so many things that we can control that again. 

00:23:32 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Are illuminated when we take the time to inventory OK, what do I actually not have control over you and I both know that’s where we spend a lot of time and worry and anxiety and creating a lot of stress for ourselves. 

00:23:44 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Distress for ourselves when we’re thinking about these things, we have absolutely no control over, and so a lot of this is just putting your awareness around, hey. 

00:23:53 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I do have control over these things now. 

00:23:55 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Again, addiction being you know. 

00:23:59 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

A little bit different obviously, but I do have control over these things and if I use all of my energy, stop, stop draining my energy on these things that I can’t control, I can use all of 100% of my energy. 

00:24:13 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Whatever that whatever that level is in a given day doesn’t matter, because it will grow over time. 

00:24:20 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

And you just start using that energy. 

00:24:22 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

To focus on the things that you can control. 

00:24:25 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Absolutely, we all have so much tank in our game. 

00:24:28 Patrick Martin LCSW 

You know, gas in our tank. 

00:24:29 Patrick Martin LCSW 

And so many hours in a day, right to allocate. 

00:24:34 Patrick Martin LCSW 

And it’s easy to give away our power to things that don’t. 

00:24:40 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Return that investment right? 

00:24:41 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Yeah, exactly. 

00:24:41 Patrick Martin LCSW 

They are not a good investment to begin with and then we’re tapped out. 

00:24:46 Patrick Martin LCSW 

We don’t have what we need to allocate toward. 

00:24:49 Patrick Martin LCSW 

The other things right? 

00:24:50 Patrick Martin LCSW 

And that’s how things Snowball. 

00:24:52 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Right in terms of stress. 

00:24:56 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

That’s where the. 

00:24:56 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Point system comes in. 

00:24:58 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Tell me about that. 

00:24:58 Patrick Martin LCSW 

I was going to ask you. 

00:24:59 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Now, let’s go and dive into the tactics. 

00:25:01 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Now that we’ve talked a lot around the theory right of mental health, right? 

00:25:05 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Let’s get into the brass tacks of what? Binging sober is because you’ve spent, you know, quite. I’m sure a lot of energy in developing this into a fine-tuned program and. 

00:25:16 Patrick Martin LCSW 

For its efficacy right? 

00:25:19 Patrick Martin LCSW 

And so let’s talk about that it it involves a point system you’ve touched on that, so you can tell. 

00:25:24 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Us more about that. 

00:25:25 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Well, you know it’s everything we’ve been talking about. 

00:25:28 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

You’re really building a lot of awareness, control, and balance of these things by taking personal inventory by being comfortable with looking at what you know, what kind of things are queuing you internally externally to use these things so. 

00:25:43 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

In the end, you come out with a blueprint of OK. 

00:25:46 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Well, this thing has this escape or escapism, and I I say both. 

00:25:52 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I’m sorry my dog is crying. 

00:25:53 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

What do you say? 

00:25:55 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I say both because an escape ISM is the unhealthy version. 

00:26:00 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

There are natural escapes and I can. 

00:26:03 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Argue there are. 

00:26:04 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Way more natural escapes. 

00:26:06 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

And we were talking about earlier gratitude. 

00:26:08 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Oh my gosh, it’s so simple, but it it is. 

00:26:10 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

It’s a meditation, yoga, gardening, anything that you find flow in as an individual. 

00:26:18 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

There are so. 

00:26:19 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Many things, creative expression, movement, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera, that that give us the energy back, give us more fuel. 

00:26:28 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

And so the point system is about really developing awareness around how these escape isms impact me. 

00:26:35 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

There are toxic escapism. 

00:26:38 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

There are potentially toxic. 

00:26:40 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Like escape isms where? 

00:26:44 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

These are the things like social media, television, shopping. 

00:26:48 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

All of these things that aren’t inherently toxic that involve chemicals like food, preservatives, alcohol, illicit drugs. 

00:26:56 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

You know those are separate and in a way, and so these potentially toxic escapism. SMS’s are the ones that we have so much. 

00:27:05 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Access to, especially after the pandemic, they become there are 808 hundred and 17,000 shows streaming on television right now. 

00:27:13 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Wow, mind-blowing. 

00:27:13 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

And that number. 

00:27:16 Patrick Martin LCSW 

And here I can’t decide what to watch, you know? 

00:27:21 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Too many. 

00:27:21 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Choices I know, I know and. 

00:27:23 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Or being a kid is like what’s on Saturday morning cartoons. 

00:27:26 Patrick Martin LCSW 

That’s what you get. 

00:27:26 Patrick Martin LCSW 

You better yeah. 

00:27:29 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I’m glad that you said that because. 

00:27:32 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I talked to. 

00:27:32 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

A lot of clients and a lot. 

00:27:33 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Of people who. 

00:27:35 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

You know want. 

00:27:35 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

To talk about their teenagers and how their. 

00:27:41 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Abusing these escapism SMS and how it’s impacting them and their you know ability to be responsible and driven and motivated. 

00:27:51 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

And a lot of those people you know need that aha moment that they’re not really paying attention to what they’re doing, so a lot. 

00:27:58 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Of times we can. 

00:27:58 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Turn it around as this comment of. 

00:28:01 

You know when I. 

00:28:01 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Was when I. 

00:28:02 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Was little we used to play outside. 

00:28:05 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Until dark and then my mom would call me in and. 

00:28:08 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I say, OK, when’s the last time? 

00:28:10 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

You did that because. 

00:28:12 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

That’s exact all. 

00:28:13 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Of us are doing it and you’re modeling that behavior for. 

00:28:16 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Your child anyway? 

00:28:17 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

The point system, which is actually going to be. 

00:28:19 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Released on February. 

00:28:20 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

First I’ve started releasing #binging sober in a community. 

00:28:26 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

In a community, a private community. 

00:28:27 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

So that’s how. 

00:28:28 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

You know, we’re really. 

00:28:31 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Really fine tuning it because this is a process I’ve used myself. 

00:28:36 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

For a very. 

00:28:37 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Long time, so I’m working closely with the community to tweak the actual, you know lessons and exercises and those types of things and then the point system is released on February 1st to my website. 

00:28:51 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Changingsober.com and. 

00:28:55 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

In the end, you come out with, like I said, a tailored blueprint for hey, if you want to use this specific escapism, at least you’ll know that these are things that you can. 

00:29:07 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

There are other things that you can do to reverse the impact that it has. 

00:29:12 

On you. 

00:29:12 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

So it’s really developing a recipe. 

00:29:15 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

For living well for having the energy that you truly want when you wake up. 

00:29:20 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

In the morning. 

00:29:21 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Because what a lot of people don’t realize that I found is that the energy that. 

00:29:25 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

You have when. 

00:29:25 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

You wake up was created days the days. 

00:29:29 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

And weeks and. 

00:29:29 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Months and years before and. 

00:29:31 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Isn’t that the truth? 

00:29:32 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Yeah, and it’s something that we can. 

00:29:34 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Control for ourselves. It’s just. 

00:29:36 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

A matter of taking ownership of. 

00:29:38 Patrick Martin LCSW 

That yeah, I love that and we talk about those protective factors, you know, mental health talked a lot about OK, and it’s not always about focusing on what you want to stop, right? 

00:29:50 Patrick Martin LCSW 

What you want to do less of? 

00:29:52 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Turn your attention to what you want to do. 

00:29:54 Patrick Martin LCSW 

More of the type of person lifestyle you want, the type, the way you want to feel and focus on the things that speak to that and then over time, at least in my experience. 

00:30:03 Patrick Martin LCSW 

You will desire the other things less as it becomes incongruent as it becomes oppositional. 

00:30:09 Patrick Martin LCSW 

For the the change you’re experiencing. 

00:30:11 Patrick Martin LCSW 

The positive change. 

00:30:13 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

That was the process of #binging sober for me, so I started it in the in the Navy because I was on a ship so I would go out to sea for three days, seven days, weeks, months, whatever. 

00:30:24 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Now, I know that that’s very dramatic and that all of us can’t just hop on a boat and get out, you know, go out to sea. 

00:30:29 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

But mind you, I was locked inside. 

00:30:30 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Of the ship a lot. 

00:30:31 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Because we were, you know. 

00:30:33 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

We were just we were in the combat zone so I’m. 

00:30:36 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Talked, you know in. 

00:30:37 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

A ship it wasn’t like I. 

00:30:38 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Was able to experience the peace and. 

00:30:41 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Serenity of the ocean, which I was sometimes, but I notice when I got home when I was on land that a I. 

00:30:49 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Would go back to. 

00:30:51 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Abusing alcohol, etcetera. 

00:30:53 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Thankfully not while I was traveling, but when I was home. 

00:30:59 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I started noticing this drastic. 

00:31:01 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I mean it sounds so. 

00:31:03 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Silly, but I was in. 

00:31:04 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

My 20s, so let’s excuse young colony who? 

00:31:07 

Who was like Oh my gosh. 

00:31:09 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

There’s a huge difference in my quality of life. 

00:31:11 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

My clarity of. 

00:31:12 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Thinking like what is happening I didn’t have. 

00:31:14 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Access to really. 

00:31:15 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Any of those things that I was using to, you know, escape? 

00:31:18 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Whatever and so following my time in the Navy when I got out, I noticed that. 

00:31:25 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

That I was missing time at sea for that reason, so I started pretending I started. 

00:31:31 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Hey, I’m just gonna pretend like I’m out to see and do what is now a sober binge for me. 

00:31:37 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

And so over time, what happens and? 

00:31:41 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

This is. 

00:31:42 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

100% my faith in the. 

00:31:43 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Program is exactly what you. 

00:31:45 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Just said. 

00:31:46 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Over time now I want to escape to the clarity and to the you know the. 

00:31:54 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Calm and to the peace that comes from a lack of intoxication. 

00:31:59 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Not that comes from the intoxication, which is what I was doing prior to that and where habitual escapism puts all of us in that intoxicated state. 

00:32:09 Patrick Martin LCSW 

I love it so it’s honoring. 

00:32:12 Patrick Martin LCSW 

The benefits of sobriety. 

00:32:15 Patrick Martin LCSW 

How you feel, and it’s also kind of that as if, right mentality, right? 

00:32:22 Patrick Martin LCSW 

If you want to be something, or if you want to acknowledge something, you know getting that mental state of what that’s like, right become that person. 

00:32:31 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Yeah, I love that and little hacks. 

00:32:33 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Life hacks like that I believe are very important, right? 

00:32:36 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Because we have to sometimes trick our mind into not acknowledging the. 

00:32:41 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

A lot of it’s trickery at first. 

00:32:42 Patrick Martin LCSW 

The buffet of opportunities before us and kind of getting a little narrow minded in some sense on the things that we actually. 

00:32:48 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Want are the things that are are in our best interest? 

00:32:53 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Yeah, yeah. 

00:32:55 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Yeah, I like that. 

00:32:56 Patrick Martin LCSW 

So bringing so we’re into the community is this when you say private community, is this like a pilot program or is it like a Facebook private Facebook group? 

00:33:04 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

We’re on a Facebook private group right now. 

00:33:07 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

People can join by going to binging, binging, sober dot. 

00:33:10 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Com Yeah and following along on Instagram. 

00:33:15 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

That’s important, that’s where we’re you know. Dropping the hashtag and creating the movement on Instagram and Facebook. Or we’ll be on TikTok in a. 

00:33:22 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Couple of weeks when the point system launches. 

00:33:24 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

In February. 

00:33:26 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Wonderful so I will of course drop in the show notes the website where people can sign up and the Instagram and that way everyone can get on board with the binge sober movement, right? 

00:33:38 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Thank you, thank you. 

00:33:39 

I love it. 

00:33:40 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Yeah, and I really appreciate it. 

00:33:41 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I’m going to help around. 

00:33:42 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

And get people to to, you know, be excited. 

00:33:46 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

To go talk to a therapist. 

00:33:48 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Yes, yes, and so I’m excited to learn more about your program and what you’re doing. 

00:33:54 Patrick Martin LCSW 

And I would love to have you back on down the road if you have any interest in updating us on the progress and. 

00:33:57 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

That would. 

00:33:57 

Be awesome. 

00:34:01 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Excellent, excellent any other words of wisdom any other. 

00:34:04 Patrick Martin LCSW 

There Nuggets that you feel would be helpful to anyone right now struggling with sobriety. 

00:34:11 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Maybe they’ve tried the traditional 12 step model and that hasn’t been effective. 

00:34:15 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Maybe they’re not comfortable. 

00:34:18 Patrick Martin LCSW 

You know. 

00:34:18 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Sharing in a group for whatever reason, like people have their reasons why they don’t. 

00:34:23 Patrick Martin LCSW 

They don’t jump right into a 12 step program. 

00:34:25 Patrick Martin LCSW 

What what words of wisdom would you? 

00:34:27 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Have for somebody in that position. 

00:34:28 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Well, first of all, just the acknowledgement is power right there that you know you’re questioning your relationship with something is very, very powerful, so you know I know a lot of us tend to think of just these really formal programs, but there. 

00:34:43 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Are so many. 

00:34:45 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Supported systems out there. 

00:34:48 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

On Instagram on Facebook, you know, take them with a grain of salt, but. 

00:34:53 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

If something is going to work for you, and there’s so many countless methods, then that’s what matters, and so you know. 

00:35:01 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

All of these things. 

00:35:03 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Dare I say, whether they’re evidence based or not? 

00:35:06 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

If we can find the support and the inspiration to dip our toe in. 

00:35:12 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

And then. 

00:35:13 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Try a sober binge for 24 hours. Reflect on how that made you feel and just start. You know, peeling back the layers of the reasons why you are using that thing or abusing that thing. I’d say that is a fantastic place to start, but of course I’m going to plug. 

00:35:33 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

You know professional mental. 

00:35:34 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Health and to be proactive and preventative about it so when you have that acknowledgment, like oh, I think this might be a challenge for me. 

00:35:43 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

That’s when. 

00:35:45 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

You do the. 

00:35:45 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Search, that’s when you start seeking the the professional support as well. 

00:35:52 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

You know there are programs that you can do in the meantime. 

00:35:54 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

#binging sober, being one of them. But beyond that, please, if you are feeling like you said like this is an actual actually impacting your ability to be a responsible, you know human, then that’s definitely the signal to find more support and it’s out there. 

00:36:14 Patrick Martin LCSW 

I appreciate that absolutely support the spectrum right. 

00:36:17 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Recovery the spectrum resources. 

00:36:19 Patrick Martin LCSW 

I think knowing being real to yourself about what what stage you’re in, what you’re willing to be open to, and what resources are available. 

00:36:28 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Absolutely, and in your region like I’m in the LA area. 

00:36:31 Patrick Martin LCSW 

You know, there’s hotline. 

00:36:32 Patrick Martin LCSW 

You can call any day of the week sash right where they will link you right up to an inpatient or outpatient program. 

00:36:40 Patrick Martin LCSW 

If you’re not ready for something like that, you can get on board with a alcohol and drug counselor right through mental health, or. 

00:36:45 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Wherever and it’s not, there’s the expectation isn’t that you, you white knuckle it and you’re you. 

00:36:50 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Have to stay right. 

00:36:50 

Right, right, yeah? 

00:36:52 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I think that I think that’s. 

00:36:54 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

A pretty big misconception that stops a. 

00:36:56 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Lot of people from going. 

00:36:58 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

There yeah, is that something? 

00:36:59 Patrick Martin LCSW 

And that’s the old medical model is that we can’t treat you for mental health until you’re sober. 

00:37:03 Patrick Martin LCSW 

That’s not the way it is. 

00:37:04 Patrick Martin LCSW 

It’s harm reduction now. 

00:37:06 

Yeah, yeah. 

00:37:07 Patrick Martin LCSW 

It’s harm reduction and it’s about acceptance and meeting people where they are and their recovery. 

00:37:13 Patrick Martin LCSW 

And you know, as I when I work with clients, I try and express, you know, it’s not about. 

00:37:18 Patrick Martin LCSW 

The relapse and getting back on the wagon you fell off and you’re starting back from scratch. 

00:37:23 Patrick Martin LCSW 

It’s what did you learn? 

00:37:24 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Yeah, yeah. 

00:37:25 Patrick Martin LCSW 

From that last relapse, like you were saying. 

00:37:29 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Your period of sobriety. 

00:37:31 Patrick Martin LCSW 

And then. 

00:37:32 Patrick Martin LCSW 

We’re as one as a reminder for yourself that when you are tempted to use. 

00:37:39 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Why right? 

00:37:41 Patrick Martin LCSW 

What is it costing you or what shifted for you? 

00:37:43 Patrick Martin LCSW 

What triggered you right where you running from per say, right? 

00:37:49 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Yes, the documentation. 

00:37:49 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Or do you find it dumb, yeah? 

00:37:51 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Of course, obviously you need to be aware first, but then the documentation is #2, yeah. 

00:37:56 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Which is why I think 12 step is so popular with, you know, because they it’s forced part of the program, right? 

00:38:03 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

That’s true. 

00:38:03 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Nobody likes the interpersonal inventory, right? 

00:38:08 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Data data, but data data data. 

00:38:11 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Data and data is not always fine, which. 

00:38:12 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Is why nobody likes to do a budget. 

00:38:15 Patrick Martin LCSW 

We’re taxes, it’s tax season and we procrastinate myself. 

00:38:19 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Include on that stuff because it’s not fun to document. 

00:38:23 Patrick Martin LCSW 

I don’t tell my clients to journal unless I love it because I don’t like to journal, feels like work, but I am. 

00:38:31 Patrick Martin LCSW 

I am a fan of tracking so in some. 

00:38:34 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Form or fashion be that lists be that bullet points be on your calendar, be that through an app emoji, yes. 

00:38:38 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

That have used emojis before there, there’s so many. 

00:38:42 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Different ways, whatever, whatever you feel, could work. 

00:38:45 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

You, that’s what could. 

00:38:47 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Work for you. 

00:38:48 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

You know it doesn’t have. 

00:38:49 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

To fit this. 

00:38:49 

Little mold, yeah. 

00:38:50 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Digital could be like a little just a. 

00:38:51 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Little notebook like this? 

00:38:52 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Yeah it could be. 

00:38:53 Patrick Martin LCSW 

You know could be a little index card to keep in the front to remind you of what’s important every day, right? 

00:38:54 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

At least recorder on your phone. 

00:38:55 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

There’s so many different options. 

00:39:02 Patrick Martin LCSW 

There’s to do is whatever. 

00:39:04 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Just something simple, some doesn’t have to be complicated, whether it be sobriety and mental health or development, fitness, diet. 

00:39:11 Patrick Martin LCSW 

It’s all the same, really. 

00:39:16 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Change takes work. 

00:39:18 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

And times. 

00:39:18 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Change it hard, hard, hard stuff because it requires us to. 

00:39:24 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Dig deep. 

00:39:26 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Be compassionate with ourselves, which is hard. 

00:39:29 Patrick Martin LCSW 

I feel like it’s harder to forgive ourselves and be compassionate than it is with other people even. 

00:39:36 Patrick Martin LCSW 

When we don’t hit our our goals and I think it’s like goals scare people because on the opposite side of that, if they don’t meet their goals which none of us do if they’re, our goals are probably where they should be, which is outside of our comfort zone. 

00:39:49 

Yeah true. 

00:39:50 Patrick Martin LCSW 

There’s going to be disappointment. 

00:39:52 Patrick Martin LCSW 

There’s going to be the potential for self shame because. 

00:39:58 Patrick Martin LCSW 

We are. 

00:39:59 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Our brains are programmed to focus on. 

00:40:02 Patrick Martin LCSW 

The problem is the negative, the threat, the fear, the consequence, right? 

00:40:07 Patrick Martin LCSW 

We’re conditioned that way through object relations, and so it’s very easy to get down on ourselves, and so I think a big part of change is focusing on how we think about change. 

00:40:18 Patrick Martin LCSW 

How we think about goals right goals are meant to are not meant to be achieved. 

00:40:22 Patrick Martin LCSW 

They’re meant to set a pace and a direction, and. 

00:40:26 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Something to measure? 

00:40:28 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Yeah, with a Y on the other side, yeah. 

00:40:31 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Those routines that you’ve got. 

00:40:32 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

To look. 

00:40:32 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Out for yes yeah. 

00:40:35 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

The process the process involved in the. 

00:40:37 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Goals, Yep. 

00:40:38 Patrick Martin LCSW 

That’s right, and so I’m sure you talk all about that in your program. 

00:40:41 Patrick Martin LCSW 

And more than happy to check it out and hope you know anyone listening or watching you know to this episode, please do head over there and sign up so you can learn more about the binge sober movement and as well as. 

00:40:53 Patrick Martin LCSW 

On Instagram so. 

00:40:55 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Link up to all of that. 

00:40:57 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Well, thank you. 

00:40:58 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Thank you for having me. 

00:40:59 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Yes, my pleasure. 

00:41:00 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Thank you for being on. 

00:41:01 Patrick Martin LCSW 

I love the work you’re doing and would love to circle back and chat some more and how it’s going. 

00:41:07 Patrick Martin LCSW 

All right, and with that I wish you a fantastic week and. 

00:41:11 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

You too. 

00:41:14 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Happy New year. 

00:41:15 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Here we are. 

00:41:16 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

I know we’re halfway through. 

00:41:19 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Right, I know, I know. 

00:41:20 Patrick Martin LCSW 

How about? 

00:41:22 Colleen Ryan-Hensley 

Thank you so much. 

00:41:23 Patrick Martin LCSW 

All right, thank you so much Colleen appreciate. 

00:41:24 

Nice to. 

00:41:24 

Meet you. 

00:41:25 

You bye bye. 

00:41:28 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Well, you have it. 

00:41:28 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Another tool to help you thrive until next time make good things. 

00:41:31 Patrick Martin LCSW 

Happen bye bye. 

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