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Unlocking Borderline Personality Disorder Treatment: Here's What You Need to Know! Catherine Humenuk

Unlocking Borderline Personality Disorder Treatment: Here’s What You Need to Know!

Borderline Personality Disorder is a mental health condition that can be tough to treat. In this episode, Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT, shares what you need to know about BPD and its treatment.

If you or someone you know is struggling with BPD, this post is for you. Catherine Humenuk provides an in-depth look at BPD causes and symptoms, as well as treatment options. She also emphasizes the importance of seeking help, whether that means seeking out a professional therapist or using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). BPD is a serious condition, and by understanding it and seeking help, you can take steps toward recovering from it.



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BIO: Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT

How Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) Is Created - Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT

BPD Education.com was founded in 2021 with a simple mission: to change the way people think about Borderline Personality Disorder, by being a compassionate and non-judgmental source of information about BPD.

Hi! I’m Catherine Humenuk, MSW, LCSW, C-DBT, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who primarily treats Borderline Personality Disorder, Complex PTSD, and substance use disorders. I was originally introduced to DBT (the therapy most often recommended for Borderline Personality Disorder) in my personal life, when a therapist suggested practicing radical acceptance (a DBT skill but also a great life skill in general) about a situation I could not change.

Radical acceptance completely changed my life. I was suddenly free from so much suffering, which I had caused myself by resisting reality. I continued my journey of healing by learning more about mindfulness, and I wanted to share it with others. Ultimately I became a yoga instructor and then a therapist, with the goal of helping people who struggle with overwhelming emotions. As a DBT therapist, I use DBT skills every day in a variety of situations.

In my professional work, I find that Borderline Personality Disorder symptoms just make sense. I noticed that I was able to understand people with BPD, and put some of their experiences into words. When I explained what was happening, my clients with BPD felt validated and supported; their families and loved ones felt relief because they could finally understand what was happening. I hosted some trainings for other mental health providers to share what I know, and the response was amazing.

I started BPD Education to make this information more widely available. This website is certainly not the only website out there with information about BPD, and it might not explain every individual’s experience, but I truly believe it will be a starting point for healing for many.

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Unlocking Borderline Personality Disorder Treatment: Here’s What You Need to Know! Catherine Humenuk

Borderline Personality Disorder is a mental health condition that can be tough to treat. In this video, Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT, shares what you need to know about BPD and its treatment. If you or someone you know is struggling with BPD, this video is for you.

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Unlocking Borderline Personality Disorder Treatment: Here’s What You Need to Know! Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT

Do you, or someone you know struggle with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)?


Recommended Books On Borderline Personality Disorder:

Borderline Personality Disorder-Demystified
The Buddha & The Borderline
Building A Life Worth Living
The Borderline Personality Workbook
The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook
Beyond Borderline
Loving Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder
Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder
Talking To A Loved One With Borderline Personality Disorder
The Big Book On Borderline Personality Disorder
Stop Walking On Eggshells







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My name is Patrick Martin, your host, I am an LCSW, AKA psychotherapist by trade.

As a dedicated therapist, I have always believed in the power of knowledge and resources in the field of mental health. Recognizing the need for a space that bridges the gap between professionals and those seeking help, The Mental Health Toolbox was born.

Our aim is to equip other therapists with effective tools to enhance their practice and service delivery. We understand the importance of staying updated with the latest research, techniques, and trends in mental health. Therefore, we curate high-quality, evidence-based resources, ensuring you have the best tools at your disposal.

Simultaneously, we are committed to educating consumers with essential knowledge to thrive. We believe that everyone deserves access to reliable, understandable, and actionable mental health information. Our resources are designed to demystify mental health, promoting understanding, empathy, and self-care.

Through our Newsletter, Blog, Podcast, YouTube Channel, Workbooks, and Courses, we hope to create a community that fosters learning, growth, and wellness. Each edition will bring you insightful articles, tips, interviews, and advice to support your journey, whether you're a mental health professional seeking to enhance your practice or an individual striving for better mental well-being.
Join us at The Mental Health Toolbox as we work together to build a world where mental health care is effective, accessible, and understood by all. Let's learn, grow, and thrive together.

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Welcome to The Mental Health Toolbox podcast, where our mission is to empower therapists and enlighten individuals on their mental health journey.

My name is Patrick Martin, your host, I am an LCSW, AKA psychotherapist by trade.

As a dedicated therapist, I have always believed in the power of knowledge and resources in the field of mental health. Recognizing the need for a space that bridges the gap between professionals and those seeking help, The Mental Health Toolbox was born.

Our aim is to equip other therapists with effective tools to enhance their practice and service delivery. We understand the importance of staying updated with the latest research, techniques, and trends in mental health. Therefore, we curate high-quality, evidence-based resources, ensuring you have the best tools at your disposal.

Simultaneously, we are committed to educating consumers with essential knowledge to thrive. We believe that everyone deserves access to reliable, understandable, and actionable mental health information. Our resources are designed to demystify mental health, promoting understanding, empathy, and self-care.

Through our Newsletter, Blog, Podcast, YouTube Channel, Workbooks, and Courses, we hope to create a community that fosters learning, growth, and wellness. Each edition will bring you insightful articles, tips, interviews, and advice to support your journey, whether you're a mental health professional seeking to enhance your practice or an individual striving for better mental well-being.
Join us at The Mental Health Toolbox as we work together to build a world where mental health care is effective, accessible, and understood by all. Let's learn, grow, and thrive together.

Welcome to The Mental Health Toolbox podcast, where our mission is to empower therapists and enlighten individuals on their mental health journey.

My name is Patrick Martin, your host, I am an LCSW, AKA psychotherapist by trade.

As a dedicated therapist, I have always believed in the power of knowledge and resources in the field of mental health. Recognizing the need for a space that bridges the gap between professionals and those seeking help, The Mental Health Toolbox was born.

Our aim is to equip other therapists with effective tools to enhance their practice and service delivery. We understand the importance of staying updated with the latest research, techniques, and trends in mental health. Therefore, we curate high-quality, evidence-based resources, ensuring you have the best tools at your disposal.

Simultaneously, we are committed to educating consumers with essential knowledge to thrive. We believe that everyone deserves access to reliable, understandable, and actionable mental health information. Our resources are designed to demystify mental health, promoting understanding, empathy, and self-care.

Through our Newsletter, Blog, Podcast, YouTube Channel, Workbooks, and Courses, we hope to create a community that fosters learning, growth, and wellness. Each edition will bring you insightful articles, tips, interviews, and advice to support your journey, whether you're a mental health professional seeking to enhance your practice or an individual striving for better mental well-being.
Join us at The Mental Health Toolbox as we work together to build a world where mental health care is effective, accessible, and understood by all. Let's learn, grow, and thrive together.



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Interview Transcript:

00:00:00 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I myself grew up very emotionally dysregulated, and I never got an official diagnosis of BPD, but I, you know, there was a time in my adolescence when I was going from therapist to therapist and everybody knew something was wrong with me and nobody knew what it was and nobody could help but everybody. 

00:00:20 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Felt really free to tell me that I shouldn’t. 

00:00:22 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Be feeling the way I. 

00:00:23 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Was feeling. 

00:00:24 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It was really convenient, forever inconvenient for. 

00:00:27 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So when I went into local work, I wanted to. 

00:00:31 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Work with folks like. 

00:00:32 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Me folks who had those big emotions that the people around them didn’t understand. 

00:00:37 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

That nobody could. 

00:00:38 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Help them manage because there is a way out. 

00:00:41 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And I wanted to. 

00:00:41 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Help people find it. 

00:00:42 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Are you or someone you know struggling with borderline personality disorder? 

00:00:46 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Then stick around, because in this episode of the mental health toolbox, we are unlocking borderline personality disorder treatment with certified DBT therapist and licensed clinical social worker Catherine Humenik. 

00:00:59 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

So let’s. 

00:01:00 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

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00:01:04 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

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00:01:10 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

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00:01:12 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Subscribing also if you know anyone who might benefit from this episode, please do share and help us to raise mental health awareness and grow the channel. 

00:01:20 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

So let’s dive in. 

00:01:29 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Welcome, Catherine. 

00:01:30 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Thank you so much for making time to be on the mental Health Toolbox Podcast today. 

00:01:35 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

It’s a pleasure and an honor to have you on. 

00:01:37 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And I just really respect the fact that you’re taking time out of your busy schedule to share your words of wisdom around borderline personality disorder, which is a very prime topic in the mental health space. 

00:01:50 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

So thank you so much. 

00:01:52 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Thank you so much for having me. 

00:01:54 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Oh, my pleasure. 

00:01:55 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

So maybe you could share a little bit. 

00:01:57 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

About who you are and your background and maybe how you got into this particular niche of mental health. 

00:02:04 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So my name is Catherine Cumnock, I am. 

00:02:06 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

A licensed clinical social. 

00:02:07 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Worker I have been working in mental. 

00:02:10 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Health since 2015. 

00:02:13 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And what really led me to what led me to work in mental health? 

00:02:17 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Actually this. 

00:02:18 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Before this I had a previous career in commercial real estate, asset management and underrating. 

00:02:25 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

That kind of thing and. 

00:02:27 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I was good at it and I. 

00:02:28 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Enjoyed it, but it didn’t feel like. 

00:02:31 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I was to feel. 

00:02:33 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Like my purpose, it didn’t feel like I was put on this earth. 

00:02:35 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

To be really good at Excel. 

00:02:37 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Spreadsheets and there are people who are. 

00:02:39 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And bless them and you need them. 

00:02:43 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So a friend of mine. 

00:02:45 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Actually at the job I was at, she had. 

00:02:48 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Worked at the. 

00:02:49 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

School of social work while she was in. 

00:02:51 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

College for a work study. 

00:02:53 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And she said. 

00:02:54 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Have you ever thought about social work? 

00:02:56 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And you could be a good fit for. 

00:02:57 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You and and I hadn’t, I. 

00:03:00 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Thought social work was all. 

00:03:01 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

About food stamps and. 

00:03:03 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Peace management. 

00:03:04 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I had heard all those nasty stereotypes and she encouraged me to look more into it because I was wrong and I looked more into it. 

00:03:10 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And I was wrong. 

00:03:11 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And I was very happy to be wrong and so on a whim, I applied and got in. 

00:03:17 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And you know here. 

00:03:18 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I am, but I’ve always. 

00:03:20 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Wanted to work with people with borderline personality disorder because. 

00:03:24 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I myself grew up very emotionally dysregulated, and I never got an official diagnosis of BPD, but I, you know, there was a time in my adolescence when I was going from therapist to therapist and everybody knew something was wrong with me and nobody knew what it. 

00:03:40 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Was and nobody could help. 

00:03:42 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

But everybody felt really free to tell me that I. 

00:03:45 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Shouldn’t be feeling the way? 

00:03:46 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I was feeling it was really convenient forever inconvenient for everybody else. 

00:03:50 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So when I went into clinical work, I wanted to work with folks like me, folks who had those big emotions that the people around them didn’t understand, that nobody could help them manage because there is a way. 

00:04:04 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And I wanted to help people find it. 

00:04:07 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Wow, that’s great. 

00:04:08 

Is it? 

00:04:10 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Typically is right. 

00:04:11 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

A lot of the time therapists get into this space because of their personal journeys, right? 

00:04:18 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Their personal struggles and finding ways to address those things. 

00:04:22 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Then we become very empathetic for. 

00:04:25 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Asking that, paying that forward right, passing our knowledge along, I know that’s why I got into social work and I did not have any exposure funny enough to social work. 

00:04:36 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Maybe like yourself. 

00:04:37 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

How I thought about it was never even top of mind growing up. 

00:04:42 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I was actually studying to be a pharmacist. 

00:04:46 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

So not even that I was all over the map. 

00:04:49 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I was a first generation college student and didn’t really know what I wanted. 

00:04:54 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I want X-ray tech, maybe ultrasound tech. 

00:04:56 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I was considering that and then did a little research on Bing for your buck and pharmacy was at the top of the. 

00:05:02 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

List and so I started. 

00:05:04 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Setting did that pre Med in sociology and then yeah. 

00:05:09 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And then I realized after a while it just wasn’t. 

00:05:12 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Poor me. 

00:05:13 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I was running away from some things that. 

00:05:17 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

That wasn’t a good motivation, you know? 

00:05:21 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I have now is very much in line with my values and I’m glad I picked social work because I like to help the underdog and people who maybe got a rough start understand that it’s not where you start. 

00:05:31 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Off in life, it’s. 

00:05:33 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Everything in between and recreating ourselves and getting in scope and. 

00:05:37 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

So I can definitely relate to that aspect of maybe. 

00:05:42 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Not understand the space until we’re in it, but having. 

00:05:45 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Leading with our passions leading with our values and. 

00:05:49 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

In the helping field. 

00:05:53 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

So that’s fantastic. 

00:05:55 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

So you obviously went for your MSW, right and then you got into this space of. 

00:06:04 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Mental health and at what point did you realize that borderline personality treatment could be its own? 

00:06:12 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Full time thing. 

00:06:14 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Oh, that was. 

00:06:16 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I I knew that before the program. 

00:06:20 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So when I was having that conversation with my friend at work about, you know, what am I going to do with my life? 

00:06:26 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Pretty much laid out like. 

00:06:28 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I had this I had. 

00:06:29 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

This really wonderful life changing experience. 

00:06:32 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

That helped me and I wanted to be. 

00:06:34 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Able to facilitate. 

00:06:35 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

That for other people. 

00:06:36 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So I knew. 

00:06:38 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

That I wanted some kind of private practice. 

00:06:41 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It was nebulous, you know, one day. 

00:06:44 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It was a. 

00:06:45 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

A therapeutic ranch and and one day. 

00:06:47 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It was a DBT program. 

00:06:48 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And one day it. 

00:06:49 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Was just a individual private practice, but I always knew my. 

00:06:52 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Clients would be people with borderline personality disorder. 

00:06:56 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Oh, that’s fantastic. 

00:06:57 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

So you have the vision. 

00:06:59 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And as it goes with a lot of our goals, right, we don’t necessarily need to have. 

00:07:04 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Everything written in stone. 

00:07:05 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

In fact, we shouldn’t, because things never quite go according to plan and what we want changes, right? 

00:07:11 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Our vision shifts. 

00:07:12 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

It’s a moving target. 

00:07:14 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

But it is important to have something on the horizon right that you’re moving toward. 

00:07:20 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And so for you, it was definitely serving this population. 

00:07:24 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And some greater capacity than maybe what you could do through? 

00:07:27 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Agency work I assume? 

00:07:30 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And I started after Graduate School. 

00:07:32 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I worked in an intensive outpatient program. 

00:07:35 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So there were. 

00:07:36 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

A lot of books with. 

00:07:37 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

BPD there, but also a lot of. 

00:07:38 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Folks with affective disorder, bipolar disorder, major depression, PTSD. 

00:07:45 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And of course, there’s tons of overlap in the symptoms there, but I worked in the IOP program and then I went and I worked in, ER, doing refreshment. 

00:07:54 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So I talked. 

00:07:55 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

To people who have been brought in. 

00:07:57 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Maybe by the police or maybe. 

00:08:00 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

After a suicide attempt and I would talk with them. 

00:08:04 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And see what the. 

00:08:05 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Us place for them was going to be whether it’s going to be inpatient or back. 

00:08:09 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

At home. 

00:08:09 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And doing outpatient care. 

00:08:11 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So we did that. 

00:08:11 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

For about. 

00:08:14 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

About five years. 

00:08:16 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Before I started private practice. 

00:08:19 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

All right, so you have kind of a nice varied wealth of experience, right to draw from? 

00:08:24 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

But you were at the same time, we’re looking maybe for some common threads and the problems you were seeing, you’re starting to identify those, right? 

00:08:33 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

When it comes to BPD or borderline personality disorder, not to be confused with bipolar disorder, which is, you know, same acronym. 

00:08:45 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

What do you feel are some common misconceptions about? 

00:08:50 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Borderline disorder, or some some myths that you’ve come across. 

00:08:56 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So there’s a lot. 

00:08:57 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Of misinformation in the media, most recently last year with the Amber Heard trial, BPD started getting a whole bunch of attention, and not in a compassionate, educational way. 

00:09:13 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

There’s a lot of misunderstandings and I would say the biggest one is that people with BPD don’t get better doing your quotes because that’s not true. 

00:09:23 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

We used to think that weaving academia because we didn’t have. 

00:09:28 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

A treatment for it. 

00:09:30 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And so people weren’t getting better. 

00:09:32 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Because we weren’t treating them effectively. 

00:09:35 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

But that doesn’t mean that that’s true in them. 

00:09:39 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It just sounds like that’s kind of. 

00:09:40 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Been handed down from you. 

00:09:42 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Know generations of supervisors to supervisees. 

00:09:46 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And unless somebody actually. 

00:09:47 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Is curious enough to go look. 

00:09:49 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Into the research because they have a. 

00:09:51 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Particular interest in that population? 

00:09:53 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

They’re never going to know that that information is. 

00:09:55 

Take it. 

00:09:56 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

We think that’s definitely the number and most harmful misconception. 

00:10:01 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

That you have this thing and you’re always going to have it and there’s no cure. 

00:10:04 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And the best you can hope for is to just survive. 

00:10:08 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Right. 

00:10:08 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And that’s a really, I mean. 

00:10:11 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

How could you possibly get somebody motivated for? 

00:10:13 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Treatment, if you. 

00:10:14 

Say that. 

00:10:16 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Right. 

00:10:16 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And not just any treatment, I mean this is. 

00:10:18 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

It’s a tall order. 

00:10:20 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Right. 

00:10:20 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And I’m. 

00:10:21 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I’m assuming that the the primary mode of treatment is still dialectical behavioral therapy, right? 

00:10:27 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

There are some additional ones, so we’ve also got mentalization based therapies, chemo focus therapy, transference focused therapy. 

00:10:36 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Then there’s some purely skilled spacelines like steps which I am forgetting exactly what it stands. 

00:10:41 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

For but it skills training. 

00:10:44 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Something something I so apologize. 

00:10:46 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Oh, no, you’re fine. 

00:10:47 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I know. 

00:10:49 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

You know more than I’ve ever. 

00:10:50 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I mean, you forget more than I’ve ever known about this condition, so. 

00:10:54 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So there’s lots of other treatments available now. 

00:10:58 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

How readily available they actually are in? 

00:11:00 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Somebody’s community. 

00:11:04 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

May make them. 

00:11:05 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Inaccessible in a practical way, but we do know that they’re out there and. 

00:11:08 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

That they exist. 

00:11:12 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

DBT is still really the initial go to and what we know about DBT is that they have this. 

00:11:20 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Wrap around program so. 

00:11:21 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You can get skills training, individual therapy, 24 hour a day, skills coaching and then also having your therapist be in their own. 

00:11:30 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Consultation group to make sure that they’re getting accountability as well. 

00:11:34 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

That’s still the ideal gold standard and whenever we can. 

00:11:39 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

We want to provide. 

00:11:40 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

That, but that’s also from a. 

00:11:42 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Systemic point of view, incredibly difficult to. 

00:11:46 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The group takes. 

00:11:48 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Six months to a year commitment, many times people can’t always make that commitment for really practical reasons, right? 

00:11:55 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Not their personal motivation, but just. 

00:11:58 

I don’t. 

00:11:58 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Know if I could sign up to be somewhere twice a week for. 

00:12:01 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The next year. 

00:12:02 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So I don’t know how that I could. 

00:12:03 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Expect that of the average person. 

00:12:06 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Who’s coming in for a dream? 

00:12:09 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So we do know there is a lot of research. 

00:12:11 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

That just the skills and. 

00:12:13 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

DVD’s are also incredibly effective. 

00:12:17 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It may not be. 

00:12:18 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

As great as the full wrap around program, but skills training is still incredibly. 

00:12:25 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Powerful and can make big changes for people. 

00:12:27 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So however, we can get them. 

00:12:28 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The skills, whether it’s a group, whether it’s individual. 

00:12:32 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

We want to try to get. 

00:12:32 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The skills to people as. 

00:12:34 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Fast as possible after they’re initially. 

00:12:36 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Spotted for diagnosis because it can make. 

00:12:38 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

A big change. 

00:12:40 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Thank you so much for mentioning that because I actually led a DBT program or assisted for a couple of years doing the groups individual and the whole bit, and it is very intensive in terms of the draw on staff, right and time and. 

00:12:54 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

It’s it’s not an easy thing, I think in terms of treatment to find, especially at certain levels. 

00:13:01 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Like medical and otherwise, because it is so staff intensive, right? 

00:13:06 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

But I’m happy to hear that it’s still efficacious. 

00:13:09 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

It sounds like to have maybe parceled out. 

00:13:13 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Aspects of the treatment, like the skills training. 

00:13:18 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Good, good. 

00:13:19 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It was a big a big relief too. 

00:13:21 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And you know in in my own private practice. 

00:13:24 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So I don’t run a full comprehensive program and the clients that end up coming to me are the people who they actually wouldn’t be willing or able to. 

00:13:33 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Go to the group. 

00:13:34 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

At this point in their recovery anyway, whether that’s because they don’t have the time, whether it’s because they don’t have the finances. 

00:13:41 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Then they. 

00:13:41 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Will have transportation. 

00:13:43 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Whether it’s they just aren’t comfortable enough talking about what they’re going through to share it in. 

00:13:48 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Front of other people. 

00:13:50 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And so that actually would have been. 

00:13:51 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

A barrier? 

00:13:51 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

To them, if that was mandated. 

00:13:54 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So I do like being able to provide it to a different subset of the population that might. 

00:13:59 

Not be able to access it otherwise. 

00:14:03 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Yeah, that’s good to know. 

00:14:05 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

You know, any, any, any, any access point is valuable, I’m sure when it comes to recovery like like anything, right, we all have to start somewhere and it’s better to not get trapped in that all or nothing mindset that black and white mindset when it comes to treatment. 

00:14:21 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Like, it’s important to just start somewhere. 

00:14:24 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Right. Any point? 

00:14:25 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And and work from there, right? 

00:14:27 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Do what you can with what you have with where you are. 

00:14:30 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Knowing your resources. 

00:14:32 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And not giving up, right? 

00:14:33 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I mean how? 

00:14:35 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

How discouraging is it when you you’re finally ready to ask for help and then you’re like, OK, let’s go. 

00:14:40 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And then you find out. 

00:14:42 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

The 1st 10 people you reach out to aren’t available, and there’s a by the time you get to someone, it’s a three month, six month wait to be seen. 

00:14:48 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

That’s very discouraging. 

00:14:50 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And I would venture to guess that most people give. 

00:14:52 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Up after the first call. 

00:14:54 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Let alone 10 or 15 attempts to get linked somewhere. 

00:14:59 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Right. 

00:14:59 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I mean, I’ve even I found that in. 

00:15:01 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

My own life? 

00:15:02 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Because therapist. 

00:15:02 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Good therapy, right where I’ve sent out. 

00:15:05 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Requests and I mean and I’m behind the scenes. 

00:15:09 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I know how it works, so I’ll just send out. 

00:15:11 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Ten in a row. 

00:15:11 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I’ll just copy. 

00:15:12 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Paste it all and I’ll get one answer. 

00:15:15 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And for me, being behind the scenes, I. 

00:15:18 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Know that that’s not a. 

00:15:18 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Rejection, but it’s still really frustrating and. 

00:15:22 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

What if I don’t? 

00:15:23 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Vibe with that one person who does get back to me. 

00:15:26 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And if I was just a client who had. 

00:15:29 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

No prior knowledge and all I knew was. 

00:15:31 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

That I was suffering and I didn’t know how the system worked that would. 

00:15:34 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Be incredibly difficult. 

00:15:38 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Thank you for saying that too, because that’s definitely something I try and encourage clients to do when I’m reaching, when I’m referring out, I will say, OK, you know whether it’s Psychology Today or whatever, you know, jump on there, pick 10 and speak to you and use the e-mail feature. 

00:15:53 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Right. 

00:15:54 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Because as we know like on those databases, if you use the e-mail then the therapist will get a text message. 

00:15:59 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Send an e-mail that somebody reached out to them and. 

00:16:04 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Therapists aren’t always checking their voicemails because they’re usually in session, right e-mail. 

00:16:08 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

They usually always have in front of them, right? 

00:16:11 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And so and picking always say yeah, like maybe one out of 10 we’ll get back to you don’t. 

00:16:14 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Take it personally. 

00:16:17 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

It’s just a, it’s just. 

00:16:18 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

A supply and demand issue, so. 

00:16:20 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Thank you for touching on that cause. 

00:16:22 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I think that’s important as we’re talking about a targeted treatment like this, which might even be a little harder to find in the private even in the private sector, right, people who are are trained in DBT or otherwise. 

00:16:33 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

To to get linked right, not just, it’s not just your run-of-the-mill treatment for anxiety or depression. 

00:16:39 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

It’s very specific, kind of like you think of like PTSD, right in EMDR or brainspotting or blonde exposure. 

00:16:46 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Right. 

00:16:46 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

It’s a very specific kind of. 

00:16:48 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Treatment. Yeah, yeah. 

00:16:51 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I wonder what your thoughts are on. 

00:16:55 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

The lack of emotion regulation skills, right? 

00:16:58 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Because I know that’s a big part of the recovery process, so. 

00:17:05 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

What’s the what’s the impact on on someone when they when they lack these skills, I know and some of the the content you’ve put out, you’ve talked on this subject about maybe what contributes to the development of borderline disorder. 

00:17:18 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Right. 

00:17:19 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And how sometimes it’s not, it’s not something that’s learned along the way. 

00:17:24 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Can you speak to that a? 

00:17:24 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Little bit. 

00:17:25 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Yeah. So. 

00:17:27 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

One thing that I will say. 

00:17:28 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Is that it’s going to be piggy. 

00:17:30 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Because it’s not a. 

00:17:31 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Lack it’s a lack of effective emotion regulation. 

00:17:36 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

People with BPD have plenty of emotion regulation skills. 

00:17:40 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

They’re not affected in their environment. 

00:17:42 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Right. 

00:17:43 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So you know for for lack of a better example, getting angry, screaming and throwing your phone is actually a very effective way to release the energy from the anger, to give it a voice and to kind. 

00:17:57 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Of get it out of your body. 

00:17:59 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Unfortunately, we live in. 

00:18:01 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

A world where if you’re getting angry at people. 

00:18:03 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Yelling and throwing your phone. 

00:18:05 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

People are going to. 

00:18:07 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Really, they might judge. 

00:18:08 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You for that. 

00:18:09 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

They might look down on you. 

00:18:11 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Might not want. 

00:18:11 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

To spend more time with. 

00:18:12 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You if you hit them with your phone there. 

00:18:15 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

That could be an assault. 

00:18:16 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

If you break your phone now, you have. 

00:18:18 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

To go pay hundreds. 

00:18:18 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Of dollars for a new phone. 

00:18:21 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I think that distinction. 

00:18:22 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I know I’m being kind of picky, but. 

00:18:23 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It’s really important distinction because. 

00:18:26 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

People with BPD have very advanced emotion regulation. 

00:18:29 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

They’re just not effective in the. 

00:18:32 

World that we live in. 

00:18:35 

So I. 

00:18:35 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Hope that makes sense. 

00:18:36 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Absolutely. That’s a. 

00:18:37 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Huge distinction. 

00:18:38 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Thank you for that, because we do what we know. 

00:18:42 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And we do what we do because on some level it’s worked. 

00:18:45 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Exactly and. 

00:18:46 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Right, all behaviors learned right. 

00:18:50 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And what we find is so folks with BPD, the level that they feel emotion is. 

00:18:59 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I can’t give you a number I wish. 

00:19:00 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I could save 6040, but I can’t. 

00:19:03 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The research is still out. 

00:19:06 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

We know it’s a little bit nature and a little bit. 

00:19:08 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

We don’t know exactly what. 

00:19:09 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The recipe is. 

00:19:12 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Partially, the intensity of their motions. 

00:19:14 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

That’s just how. 

00:19:15 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

They’re born. 

00:19:16 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Some people feel their feelings bigger. 

00:19:20 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And what leads to borderline disorder is when those people with those big emotions are put in an environment where the adults around them do not know what to. 

00:19:31 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Do with them. 

00:19:33 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So your your average. 

00:19:36 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You know, neurotypical mentally well, baby. 

00:19:40 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It cries. 

00:19:41 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Mom picks it up. 

00:19:43 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Maybe it just wants comfort. 

00:19:44 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It stops crying or mom picks it up and smells. 

00:19:47 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The Dirty diaper cleans. 

00:19:48 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The diaper baby stops crying or baby’s tired. 

00:19:51 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Mom cleans it a lullaby baby, but. 

00:19:54 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I’m not a parent and I’m aware that I’m grossly oversimplifying parenting there. 

00:19:59 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

That’s the ideal picture. 

00:20:00 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I’m sure all the parents listening are. 

00:20:01 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Like it is not that easy, but generally speaking, right? 

00:20:06 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The baby experiences some kind of discomfort. 

00:20:09 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

An adult comes, tends to it fix the problem. 

00:20:12 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The baby feels better, stop crying and then. 

00:20:14 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The baby gets a positive. 

00:20:15 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Response from the adult and the baby stops crying. 

00:20:18 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The adult. 

00:20:20 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Cuddles it more or says. 

00:20:21 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Nice things or speaks to it. 

00:20:22 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And soothing voice or Pats, it’s back, or tucks. 

00:20:25 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It in or whatever it might be. 

00:20:27 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And the baby will learn. 

00:20:29 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

OK, I have these big emotions. 

00:20:30 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

They’re scary, but. 

00:20:31 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It’s OK I. 

00:20:32 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Live in a big. 

00:20:32 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

World these feelings don’t last forever. 

00:20:34 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

They’re not going to kill me. 

00:20:35 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I just need some help with them. 

00:20:37 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And then. 

00:20:38 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

As the baby grows. 

00:20:38 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Into a toddler into it. 

00:20:41 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The baby will adapt those regulation skills on its own. 

00:20:45 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

OK, I don’t. 

00:20:46 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Like it when I have a dirty diaper. 

00:20:47 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I will take myself to the. 

00:20:48 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Toilet and then I won’t. 

00:20:50 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Have to be sad about having a dirty diaper. 

00:20:52 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I don’t like it when I’m really. 

00:20:55 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Well, now I have enough time. 

00:20:56 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Built into my. 

00:20:56 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Day for as long as I need it, and then when I’m old enough that I. 

00:20:59 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Don’t need it. 

00:21:00 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It’s not built into my day. 

00:21:04 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

But when you have. 

00:21:05 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

People with the with these really big emotions, you. 

00:21:09 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Might get a baby that cries because it feels lonely. 

00:21:13 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And if it takes Mom 30 extra seconds. 

00:21:15 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

To get there or dad will bring them. 

00:21:18 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The baby will feel like. 

00:21:20 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

No one’s coming, and it will become inconsolable even when the parent. 

00:21:24 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

That’s there. 

00:21:24 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The baby doesn’t stop crying right away. 

00:21:27 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And the mom thinks. 

00:21:29 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I have three kids. Why? 

00:21:30 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Is this one so hard? 

00:21:34 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And mom’s. 

00:21:35 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Not being evil, dad’s not being evil. Grandma’s not being evil. 

00:21:38 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

They’re genuinely confused. 

00:21:40 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Why everybody told me this would work. 

00:21:43 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It works with my other kids. 

00:21:44 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It works with my. 

00:21:44 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Friends, kids. 

00:21:46 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Why is this baby still crying? 

00:21:48 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And then the caregiver. 

00:21:49 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Will get frustrated. 

00:21:52 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And now the baby learns. 

00:21:54 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

While I cry nobody. 

00:21:55 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Came to get me, which of course is an exaggeration. 

00:21:58 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Hopefully of course, there are babies that do endure trauma that nobody comes to get. 

00:22:04 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

But you know, I cried. 

00:22:05 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I felt alone. 

00:22:06 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And then when somebody. 

00:22:07 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

They were mad at me for crying. 

00:22:11 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And of course, the baby doesn’t have words. 

00:22:13 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

For this, so they just. 

00:22:14 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Internalize the feeling that being sad is intolerable. 

00:22:21 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And when you have this happen. 

00:22:23 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

10 times a day for you. 

00:22:24 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Know years and years. 

00:22:26 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Then what happens is in that baby’s brain, that feeling goes from zero. 

00:22:30 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

To 60 immediately. 

00:22:33 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Now you have a 5 year old who. 

00:22:35 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You know. 

00:22:36 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The caregiver got out of the car and shut the door and didn’t immediately open the door for them and the child safety lack. 

00:22:42 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Of fun and. 

00:22:42 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The kids like I’m getting abandoned in this car. 

00:22:44 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

My my parents are leaving me in. 

00:22:46 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

This car and they’re panicking and panicking. 

00:22:49 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Finally the door. 

00:22:50 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Gets open. 

00:22:50 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The kids are crying. 

00:22:51 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You left me in the car. 

00:22:52 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You left me in the car and the. 

00:22:53 

In pants at night. 

00:22:55 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It was right here. 

00:22:58 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And of course, there are also, you know, a child who is raised in an abusive environment. 

00:23:02 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I’m not giving abusive examples, but a child who is raised in abusive environment by definition looks very invalidating that even if you just have a child who was born sensitive, if their caregivers. 

00:23:16 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Can’t pick up on that? 

00:23:17 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Know what to do with that. 

00:23:18 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Don’t have the resources to handle that. 

00:23:22 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Then it will kind of snowball into this behavioral issue of the feeling immediately becomes too big to manage. 

00:23:31 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

There’s still a kid they still need help. 

00:23:33 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So now they have to. 

00:23:34 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Have a behavior that matches the intensity of the motion in order to get any of the adults nearby to come and pay attention. 

00:23:41 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

What we know is protest behavior. 

00:23:45 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And so it sounds like, you know, we’re talking, like you said about invalidating environments, but also kind of like the Thomas theorem, right from a sociology, which states that if something is perceived to be real, it’s real and it’s often real in its consequences. 

00:24:00 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

So there is the abusive environment where there’s intentional neglect, abuse. 

00:24:05 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Right. 

00:24:05 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And then there is the inconsistent environment in which creates room for the dependent to feel. 

00:24:14 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Like their fears are are accurate or believe Mom, dad and whoever doesn’t love me, they don’t. 

00:24:19 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

You know? 

00:24:19 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I don’t feel safe. 

00:24:20 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I’m not protected. 

00:24:21 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I feel rejected. 

00:24:23 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Those types of situations, right? 

00:24:25 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And that can just stem from a place of maybe a caregiver feeling. 

00:24:29 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Overwhelmed and not knowing how to be consistent, maybe first time parent maybe not having enough support themselves right to know how to a parent more effectively and that has. 

00:24:39 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Maybe a a compounded effect on somebody who already has is maybe neurodivergent right has these, you know, additional emotional challenges or is extra sensitive and so that they might take their emotion and run with it versus a parent who helps a child. 

00:24:56 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Name their emotion and also link that to the context, right? 

00:25:06 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I think one of your posts on Instagram I was thumbing through gave a really good example of that right about I can’t remember what the what the example was, but it was basically yes. 

00:25:15 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

So you’re feeling this way because? 

00:25:18 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Right. 

00:25:18 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

You’re feeling this way because you wanted such and such, and that didn’t happen. 

00:25:23 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And I could see how that would be. 

00:25:24 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Very disappointing, right? 

00:25:27 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And supposed to saying, just shaming the emotion, you know, stop crying. 

00:25:32 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I think I think what. 

00:25:33 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You’re talking about is, you know, a kid. 

00:25:36 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Drops their toy in the mud or something and. 

00:25:40 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The parent says Oh no. 

00:25:41 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Are you sad? 

00:25:43 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So their name? 

00:25:43 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Kid is just crying. 

00:25:44 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

But they don’t know. 

00:25:45 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

They don’t know what that. 

00:25:46 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

This is yet they. 

00:25:46 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Don’t have words like that. 

00:25:48 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So parent comes in and says Oh no, are you? 

00:25:50 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Sad. Are you sad because? 

00:25:52 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You dropped your toy in. 

00:25:52 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The mud and now it’s dirty. 

00:25:55 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And then the kid can go. 

00:25:56 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I drop my toy and then the parent can say, well, let’s take this toy and clean it up. 

00:26:05 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Or or even like. 

00:26:07 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

OK well. 

00:26:07 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Here’s a different. 

00:26:08 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Toy or even OK, well, now it’s dirty but. 

00:26:11 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You can still play with it. 

00:26:12 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You know, I don’t, but there’s lots and. 

00:26:14 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Lots of ways to kind. 

00:26:16 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Of narrate for the child that it’s going to be OK, even though the twister. 

00:26:21 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I love that the narration right. 

00:26:23 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

You’re giving the child the language that they can use internally, right? 

00:26:29 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Moving forward, a coping skill and how to explain the situation is not being black and white as opposed to focusing on what they’re unhappy with. 

00:26:36 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

What are their options? 

00:26:37 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Right. What can we do? 

00:26:38 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And then on the end. 

00:26:40 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Oops, sorry. 

00:26:41 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Like what can we? 

00:26:41 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Do with this situation it’s it’s OK to feel upset, but then what do we do with what are, you know, our options? 

00:26:48 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And that’s a powerful coping skill we all we all use, right? 

00:26:53 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

But then on the other hand, you might get a. 

00:26:54 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Kid who drops their toy in the. 

00:26:56 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Mud and starts crying and the. 

00:26:58 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Parent says shut up and watching TV. 

00:27:03 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Of course you dropped your toy in the mud because you’re a dirty kid you’re always doing. 

00:27:08 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Stuff like this. 

00:27:09 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Or will you stop crying? 

00:27:12 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You know, you’re just trying to make. 

00:27:13 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Me feel like a bad parent and. 

00:27:16 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Those examples individually, I’m sure every parent has had. 

00:27:20 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

A moment where? 

00:27:20 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

They were like, please shut up. 

00:27:24 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

But again it’s it’s it’s. 

00:27:26 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

An environment of invalidation. 

00:27:28 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Not an episode validation. 

00:27:31 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It’s unbalanced. 

00:27:32 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The child knows that when they feel a. 

00:27:34 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Big emotion, it’s. 

00:27:34 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Going to be OK. 

00:27:36 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Then we’re good. 

00:27:37 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

If unbalanced, the child knows every time I have a big emotion. 

00:27:41 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Somebody gets mad at me. 

00:27:43 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Or it’s my fault or I get? 

00:27:46 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Then we start to see this behavior. 

00:27:48 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Patterns develop where. 

00:27:49 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

They have to compensate. 

00:27:50 

For them. 

00:27:52 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Compensate or overcompensate or either contain, contain, contain, boom or OK. 

00:27:59 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I’m just gonna take it to another level higher. 

00:28:00 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I’m going to protest this this thing until I’m heard right. 

00:28:05 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Becomes basically a screaming match. 

00:28:09 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Neither is a good good outcome. 

00:28:11 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Right. 

00:28:11 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Yeah, and I think. 

00:28:13 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I think we what I tend to see is. 

00:28:18 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

By the time by the. 

00:28:19 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Time this child is now a teenager or. 

00:28:21 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

A young adult, they’ve gotten this diagnosis. 

00:28:23 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

They’ve, you know, they’ve started to do this research. 

00:28:27 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

What I hear from the parents. 

00:28:29 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Is well, I I didn’t abuse my child. 

00:28:32 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I treated my kid just like every. 

00:28:33 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Other kid. 

00:28:34 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Right. And then if? 

00:28:35 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

We go back to that example of. 

00:28:37 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The kid I. 

00:28:37 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Feeling like they’re not in the car even though. 

00:28:39 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It may have been 30 seconds. 

00:28:43 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

That’s not abuse. 

00:28:44 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It’s not right, but. 

00:28:47 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

If the kid is. 

00:28:47 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Crying, saying you were you were going to leave. 

00:28:50 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You were going to leave me. 

00:28:51 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The parent says no, I wasn’t. 

00:28:54 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Then all the kid. 

00:28:55 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Has learned from that exchange is. 

00:28:58 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I’m pretty sure what I felt was real, but everybody’s telling me it’s not real. 

00:29:01 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So I don’t. 

00:29:01 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Really know what’s real. 

00:29:04 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

If the parent says it must have been really. 

00:29:07 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Scary for you to. 

00:29:07 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Be in the car. 

00:29:09 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Then the kid learns. 

00:29:10 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

OK, that feeling was called fear, and then the parent can say but. 

00:29:14 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Here I am then. 

00:29:17 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So that’s certainly not abuse, but if it was just a pattern of the parents just didn’t understand why the kid was having such big feelings and was just like, oh, the facts are this. 

00:29:30 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

There, it’s not as helpful as maybe they. 

00:29:32 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Think it is in that moment. 

00:29:33 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Right. 

00:29:34 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

They’re trying to fuse it, but really, if we just take that extra effort to validate the subject, the subjective experience, regardless of who the person is and how old they are, because even adults need this. 

00:29:46 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

We all want to feel heard at any age. 

00:29:49 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

That’s all anybody really wants is to be heard, and then we can accept the. 

00:29:56 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Contributing factors, right, the reality. 

00:29:59 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Out the external factors I should say, right? 

00:30:03 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

But until we feel validated or heard, it’s gonna be very hard to then focus on. 

00:30:09 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

What better didn’t happen? 

00:30:13 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Based on our understanding, so that’s a very good point. 

00:30:17 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

So we’ve we’ve talked about the invalidating environments. 

00:30:21 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

What else comes into play when? 

00:30:24 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

One is trying to diagnose a borderline personality disorder because I know it’s a little tricky. 

00:30:28 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

It’s not as simple as that. 

00:30:30 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Yeah, it’s it’s pretty tricky. 

00:30:33 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I think there. 

00:30:34 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Is a lot of. 

00:30:36 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

There’s a lot of misconception about diagnosis with BP and. 

00:30:42 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I think one of the biggest misconceptions is in order to get. 

00:30:46 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The diagnosis you have to have some sort of. 

00:30:49 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Self harm or. 

00:30:50 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Suicidal ideation in your history, and you do not. 

00:30:54 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I would say the majority of people with BPD. 

00:30:56 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Do it is not a required criteria. 

00:31:01 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

There are nine symptoms that are listed in our diagnostic. 

00:31:04 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Manual you have to have. 

00:31:05 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Five, but they whatever iteration of those symptoms that. 

00:31:10 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You have whether. 

00:31:11 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You have five or six or seven. 

00:31:12 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Or 8 and which five you have or whatever. 

00:31:14 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

They just have to create a. 

00:31:16 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Pattern of emotional instability and unstable relationships. 

00:31:21 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

That’s really the big picture. 

00:31:25 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So we hear sometimes. 

00:31:27 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Quiet BPD and what you might see people with quiet BPD is they have all the same symptoms, but the pattern of emotional stability is not visible from the outside. 

00:31:38 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

These are folks who learn to deal with their emotions by pretending they don’t exist. 

00:31:43 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So they’re still. 

00:31:43 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Feeling them on the inside, but nobody on the outside would know they’re not back. 

00:31:50 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And it’s also really tricky to diagnose because there are so. 

00:31:53 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Symptoms that. 

00:31:56 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Overlap with these other diagnoses. 

00:32:00 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So I can’t tell you how I think there is research I. 

00:32:03 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Don’t remember the exact statistic, but. 

00:32:05 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It’s incredibly large number of. 

00:32:07 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Folks with Borderline are initially diagnosed with bipolar. 

00:32:11 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Because they come into the therapist office or the psychiatrist office and they just scribe. 

00:32:18 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

How they are? 

00:32:19 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Outside of the office. 

00:32:22 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And it sounds like these really big changes and if you don’t ask how like what the duration? 

00:32:29 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Of those episodes is. 

00:32:30 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It could be bipolar. 

00:32:33 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Right. Oh, I get. 

00:32:34 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Really impulsive and I think really highly of myself and I. 

00:32:38 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You know, I decide I’m going. 

00:32:39 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

To start a new business and. 

00:32:41 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Change my hair and. 

00:32:42 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Do all this and then the guy just. 

00:32:44 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Goes OK, like manic episode. 

00:32:46 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And anecdotally, I find that this misdiagnosis often happens if the person does even the stereotypical. 

00:32:56 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Picture of BPD, so if they. 

00:32:59 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Don’t self harm or if. 

00:33:01 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

They can hold down a job or. 

00:33:02 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Whatever it might be, if they’re not. 

00:33:04 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Taking those stereotype boxes, the psychiatrists won’t even think borderline they’ll say there’s this person sitting in front of me who looks totally normal, describing this chaos, that chaos must have happened during a manic episode that they must be bipolar. 

00:33:21 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

That makes sense. I I remember in Graduate School they had a chart. I don’t know how much things have changed, but back then it was assumed that 72% of people diagnosed with bipolar two were actually would have. 

00:33:33 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

That are met the criteria for borderline personnel and disorder, and that’s a big distinction when we’re talking about the difference between a chemical imbalance. 

00:33:42 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Which is more or less kind of a is more of a permanent kind of thing that can be managed versus. 

00:33:49 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

As uh. 

00:33:51 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

A psychologically developed condition that can be reprogrammed. 

00:33:56 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Right. 

00:33:57 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

In essence, I know there’s a a savvier way to say that, but that’s kind of how I think about it. 

00:34:01 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

You know, in the in the difference and even we we could go into a whole rabbit hole of just bipolar disorder in itself. 

00:34:08 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Right. 

00:34:08 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And you know, bipolar one versus bipolar 2 versus bipolar, rapid cycling versus so on and so forth, right? 

00:34:17 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Seasonal versus etc. 

00:34:20 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Yeah, so it gets a little a little sticky in the diagnostic area. 

00:34:23 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

So I was curious, you know, because I know those who you know that that term gets thrown around. 

00:34:28 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Oh, this person’s borderline or that person’s borderline, really. Oftentimes what’s being referred to are borderline traits as or thought of right? Like the splitting or the protest behavior. 

00:34:41 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Fear of abandonment. 

00:34:43 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Rejection, the impulsivity, the the self harm, the cutting, the head banging, all of that, you know, promiscuity, the substance use of the you know that. 

00:34:54 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Are easily generalized into a bucket. 

00:34:57 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

You know, and I think we need to be careful as consumers of mental health as practitioners of mental health and the general population, which is why I’m so glad you’re on today, so we can raise a little awareness around this is that we need to be very careful about how we generalize. 

00:35:12 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Because those labels already have enough stigma attached. 

00:35:16 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Right, which is a big part of the problem. 

00:35:20 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And there’s so many symptoms that. 

00:35:24 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Our trans diagnostic. 

00:35:26 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So by that what I mean is that you might find the same symptom. 

00:35:29 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You might find impulsivity in bipolar. 

00:35:32 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You might find impulsivity in ADHD. 

00:35:35 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You might find impulsivity in borderline. 

00:35:37 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You might find impulsivity in PTSD. 

00:35:40 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You might find impulsivity in a lot of different things in autism right? 

00:35:45 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

There’s a bajillion different things. 

00:35:47 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Where you might find impulsivity using impulsivity. 

00:35:51 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Oh, that’s how I know this person has been diagnosed. 

00:35:53 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Is is. 

00:35:55 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Tricky and I mean the way that we diagnose is. 

00:36:01 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Imperfect, and we have to work within the system that we have for now. 

00:36:05 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

But I think what happens is. 

00:36:07 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The general public. 

00:36:09 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

People who don’t spend their lives deep diving into their research, which why should they? 

00:36:18 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The general public. 

00:36:20 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

We the way that we talk, the way that we communicate about mental health to the public. 

00:36:24 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Is we say. 

00:36:25 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Here’s this diagnosis, and here’s an. 

00:36:27 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Graphic about it and you know, if you’re most of these then you might have this and what people come to think is that a diagnosis is an on off switch. 

00:36:38 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Either have anxiety or. 

00:36:39 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I don’t. 

00:36:39 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I have depression or I don’t I have. 

00:36:41 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

PTSD or I don’t? 

00:36:43 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And that I and that one day I’ll. 

00:36:45 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Be able to just split. 

00:36:45 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

That switch off and I won’t. 

00:36:47 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Have depression or won’t have anxiety or won’t have PTSD. 

00:36:51 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And that is really oversimplified and I don’t think. 

00:36:56 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I don’t think that’s. 

00:36:57 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

A helpful way to think of oneself. 

00:37:00 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

As having five things where. 

00:37:02 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The switch isn’t flipped on. 

00:37:04 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And trying to flip these switches off. 

00:37:07 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I think it’s a lot more helpful to think of. 

00:37:10 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I think of dimmer switches. 

00:37:11 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Hmm, I like that. 

00:37:12 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And and instead of, there’s a BPD dimmer. 

00:37:16 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Switch and you have it all. 

00:37:17 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The way up or not? 

00:37:17 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

No, there’s an. 

00:37:18 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Impulsivity, dimmer switch, and that’s up or down. 

00:37:21 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

There is a quickness to anger and that’s. 

00:37:24 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Up and down, there’s a likelihood to. 

00:37:25 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Act on the anger and that’s up and down. 

00:37:28 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

There’s a quickness to return to baseline and not something down there is. 

00:37:32 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

A difficulty reading cases. 

00:37:34 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And not up and. 

00:37:35 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Down there is. 

00:37:36 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

A intensity to interpret basis negative and you have. 

00:37:40 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

10,000 dimmer switches. 

00:37:42 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And you know, 20 of them would be under the impulsivity umbrella, and if most of those are turned. 

00:37:50 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Up, we would say you’re impulsive. 

00:37:52 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And then we’ve got another umbrella of fear of abandonment. 

00:37:55 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And that’s got 20 different lunches. 

00:37:57 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And if most of. 

00:37:58 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Them are turned up, we would say. 

00:37:59 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You’ve got fear abandonment. 

00:38:01 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And then that might be. 

00:38:03 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Autism, and it might be BPD and it. 

00:38:06 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Might be ADHD. 

00:38:07 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Yeah, it might. 

00:38:08 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

It might be a label. 

00:38:08 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Of attachment disorder. 

00:38:10 

They might be. 

00:38:10 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Attachment disorder. 

00:38:12 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

How old is the person? 

00:38:13 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

How long has it been going you? 

00:38:14 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Know like all of these factors. 

00:38:16 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And that’s really, you know, when we’re diagnosing people. 

00:38:19 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

That’s what we as professionals should be thinking of as a wall of 10. 

00:38:23 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

1000 different switches. 

00:38:24 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

But it’s really hard. 

00:38:27 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

To communicate that to the public instead of just OK, you have BPD, Regent. 

00:38:33 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Right, everybody wants a simple answer. 

00:38:36 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Problem simple answers is that’s what leads to stigma. 

00:38:39 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Right. 

00:38:40 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Like that I have versus I experience. 

00:38:43 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I have experienced anxiety. 

00:38:45 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I have experienced trauma, right? 

00:38:48 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

It’s not a fixed thing. 

00:38:50 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Like you said, sometimes when the intensity of those experiences are cranked up, then it you know it flags maybe a a label but. 

00:39:00 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I like to think of diagnosis oftentimes. 

00:39:02 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

As a compass. 

00:39:03 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

You know the reason we have diagnosis to begin with. 

00:39:06 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Same thing in the medical field is so that they have something they can target. 

00:39:10 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Right. And like it could. 

00:39:12 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Be wrong. 

00:39:13 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

It could change. 

00:39:14 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

It doesn’t mean that it’s it’s salient or fixed. 

00:39:19 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Yeah, and that’s. 

00:39:21 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You know, in DBT and in many other therapies, we start with the life threatening behavior first. 

00:39:27 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Whatever we’re going. 

00:39:28 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

To call that. 

00:39:29 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You want to call it depression. 

00:39:31 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And your suicidal. 

00:39:31 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Planning you want to call it the P. 

00:39:33 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

In your suicidal thing, we’re going. 

00:39:34 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

To target the suicidal thoughts. 

00:39:37 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And then once those have been. 

00:39:40 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Managed effectively. 

00:39:42 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Then we can target, OK, well, what’s the next most serious thing going on? 

00:39:47 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I just heard a a really, really wonderful presenter. 

00:39:50 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

His name is Alan Fruzzetti. 

00:39:52 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

He is part of the National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder, which conflict of interest disclosure I am. 

00:40:00 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

On the board. 

00:40:01 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

But he just gave this. 

00:40:04 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Wonderful presentation he was talking about. 

00:40:07 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And he was saying. 

00:40:09 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

We tell people well, you have insomnia because you’re depressed. 

00:40:15 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

But they could be depressed because they have insomnia and they could be impulsive because they’re not sleepy. 

00:40:18 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Oh yeah. 

00:40:22 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And they could have insomnia because they’re mismanaging their diet or something like that, right? 

00:40:29 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

There’s, there’s so many different causes that interplay and to simply write somebody up and say. 

00:40:34 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

OK, well. 

00:40:35 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You’re depressed and that’s. 

00:40:36 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Why you can’t sleep? 

00:40:37 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And so here’s a. 

00:40:37 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Sleeping mat. 

00:40:38 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And here’s a depression Med. 

00:40:40 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

We’re not actually fixing the problem with that person. 

00:40:44 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And if we call it depression, we haven’t. 

00:40:46 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Helped that person. 

00:40:49 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

But if we say man not sleeping, sure is 1 heck of a problem that is having a domino. 

00:40:54 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Effect on the rest of your quality of life. 

00:40:57 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Let’s figure out how to get. 

00:40:58 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You some sleep. 

00:40:59 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Let’s do a sleep study. 

00:41:00 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Let’s get some lastone take a look at that. 

00:41:03 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And then once once you’re sleeping, then we’ll take. 

00:41:06 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

A look at your mental health because half of this might go away. 

00:41:10 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Right. 

00:41:10 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

As opposed to getting tunnel vision. 

00:41:13 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

On one particular idea and one symptom and just running with that right, it’s about the holistic bird’s eye view and and making sure we don’t lose sight of the other moving parts so that the other levers, levers we can pull right and like you said, there’s definitely a hierarchy, right when we’re talking about treatment with anything, right, so. 

00:41:33 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Right. 

00:41:34 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And then basic needs and then quality of. 

00:41:36 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Life kind of remember. 

00:41:38 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Yeah, I mean, I even in my. 

00:41:39 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Own life, I. 

00:41:42 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I I take vitamins, but I’m a child, so I buy each individual vitamin and gummy form. 

00:41:49 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So that way I get down like 10 gummies every day. 

00:41:51 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

That’s how I motivate myself to take. 

00:41:53 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Kid, right? 

00:41:53 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I love the gummy bear. 

00:41:58 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

No multivitamin for Catherine. 

00:42:01 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

But I was I I was having a lot of trouble sleeping and I was talking to my psychiatrist. 

00:42:06 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

At the time and. 

00:42:07 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

She actually did a. 

00:42:08 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Really comprehensive holistic work up and she asked me about my vitamins. 

00:42:13 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I say I take my meds, she said. 

00:42:15 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

OK. 

00:42:15 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

What do you take when you? 

00:42:16 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Take them, I said. 

00:42:17 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I take all of them before bed. 

00:42:18 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

They’re like. 

00:42:20 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And she goes, you take your vitamin before bed and I. 

00:42:22 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Said yeah. 

00:42:23 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

With all my other vitamins. 

00:42:25 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Cause I’m great at taking vitamins and. 

00:42:26 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Right. 

00:42:27 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

She goes OK. 

00:42:28 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Well, that’s why you can’t sleep. 

00:42:29 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Take that in the morning and then see what happens. 

00:42:31 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

In two weeks and that was it. 

00:42:34 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

That was the fix. 

00:42:36 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I didn’t mean CBT for insomnia. 

00:42:39 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I didn’t need better sleep hygiene and I’m certain. 

00:42:42 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I would benefit from it. 

00:42:44 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

But really, the fix in that moment was to take my B vitamin in the morning. 

00:42:49 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Right. 

00:42:50 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And had I gone to somebody with tunnel vision, never would. 

00:42:52 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Have gone by I would. 

00:42:53 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Have been asleep, but I would be grabby. 

00:42:55 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

All day, you know. 

00:42:57 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Especially B3. Nice. 

00:43:00 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Nice and is a. 

00:43:02 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Well, I’m not a I’m not a regular dietitian or anything, but it can be used to increase your energy so that. 

00:43:09 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Makes sense? 

00:43:11 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Yeah, excellent. 

00:43:13 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

So great point. 

00:43:14 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Yeah, it’s easy to. 

00:43:15 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

It would have been easy for a clinician to just say, hey, add a boy, take your vitamins, add. 

00:43:19 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

A girl you know. 

00:43:20 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Good job. 

00:43:21 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

You know, like you said, Pat, on the back and not pause to think about well. 

00:43:24 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

What does that mean? Vitamin. 

00:43:27 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Could be a number of things could be taken other supplements on top of those vitamins they weren’t. 

00:43:31 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Even they just drive right past and aren’t talked. 

00:43:35 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Right. 

00:43:36 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I have clients that took like 5 HTP and like, whoa, whoa, wait, what? 

00:43:39 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

What do you mean? 

00:43:40 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

On top of the top of the depressants and stuff? 

00:43:40 

You know what that is? 

00:43:43 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And then you know, there’s a whole serotonin syndrome and other things you can potentially have problems with. 

00:43:47 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

So it’s important to kind of take the time when you’re doing an assessment. 

00:43:50 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

To kind of tease that stuff out and not drive past it too quick because you never know. 

00:43:55 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

You never know what’s gonna be relevant. 

00:43:58 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And think about, think about the potential domino effect. 

00:44:00 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Of that right if. 

00:44:01 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I wasn’t sleeping. 

00:44:02 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

How much more dysregulated was I during the day? 

00:44:06 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And if I’m that much more. 

00:44:07 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Dysregulated during the day. 

00:44:09 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I was my environment responding to me because I’m having to work overtime to use my skills and I’m probably still getting invalidated more. 

00:44:17 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Often than usual. 

00:44:18 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And how long does that cycle have to go on before? 

00:44:22 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Well, now I have insomnia because I have borderline. 

00:44:26 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Right. And oh, that’s just. 

00:44:27 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The thing that people would be have right versus. 

00:44:29 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Part of the package, except that radical acceptance. 

00:44:37 

This is still my favorite but. 

00:44:38 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Yeah, that would have been appropriate. 

00:44:40 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Except things we can’t change. 

00:44:43 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

But it’s important to identify the things we can’t, right? 

00:44:49 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

So we’ve talked a lot about treatment. 

00:44:53 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

What do you feel are some of the barriers to accessing? 

00:44:56 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Here for this particular challenge. 

00:45:00 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I think. 

00:45:02 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The supply and demand. 

00:45:04 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Is a big. 

00:45:05 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Barrier I think there’s so much stigma even among clinicians against PPD that nobody wants to. 

00:45:12 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Work with them. 

00:45:13 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

That’s not nobody, but people who want. 

00:45:17 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

To work with folks with BPD. 

00:45:19 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Are probably in a DVT clinic already. 

00:45:23 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Or they’re probably running a dedicated private practice. 

00:45:26 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Already, if you have a passion for. 

00:45:27 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Working with and, there’s just not as many of them as. 

00:45:34 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Meets the need. 

00:45:35 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Which then means that it’s much more expensive, which then means that the average person can’t afford it. 

00:45:41 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

There’s also the barriers. 

00:45:42 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Of just the time commitment of TBT. 

00:45:44 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Not everybody can. 

00:45:46 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Right. Someone’s working three jobs to keep their head above water. 

00:45:49 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

They cannot commit to coming to. 

00:45:51 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Those group and individual. 

00:45:54 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And that’s not their fault. 

00:45:55 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

If they’re working a job that doesn’t give them a consistent schedule that’s not on them. 

00:46:00 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And and if the program can’t work around it because it feels group is Tuesday. 

00:46:04 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And Thursday and you? 

00:46:05 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Have to go Tuesday and Thursday. 

00:46:07 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Have to meet 90% of your appointments. 

00:46:09 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Then they’re set up for better, right? 

00:46:12 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So there is there’s. 

00:46:14 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Not enough. 

00:46:14 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Simply because of all the stigma among clinicians there, the supply that does exist is really expensive. 

00:46:25 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I don’t know and I am. 

00:46:27 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

My experience is incredibly limited of course, but I have never come across a community mental health agency that runs a comprehensive DBT program. 

00:46:36 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Community mental health runs IOP absolutely and they use DBT. 

00:46:42 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

But it’s not. 

00:46:43 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

A sign up and come for six months. 

00:46:46 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And and do. 

00:46:47 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The whole. 

00:46:47 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Program through it’s oh. 

00:46:49 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Today we’re doing this skill and this activity and then tomorrow. 

00:46:53 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

We’re going to do. 

00:46:53 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Very thick out of the modules kind of thing, yeah. 

00:46:58 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So I think there’s, I mean. 

00:47:00 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Really, when I think of it and from my experience, it’s very limited supply and very high cost. 

00:47:07 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Do you have any suggestions? 

00:47:08 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Because I found that to be the case as well. 

00:47:09 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Do you have any suggestions for what somebody can do who maybe is having trouble finding a robust program? 

00:47:17 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

What’s the next best thing? 

00:47:19 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

We do know that treatment by that was. 

00:47:24 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I think the way the study phrase it was treatment. 

00:47:26 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

By experts so. 

00:47:29 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

People, clinicians in the community. 

00:47:31 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Who don’t run DBT programs, but they want to work with people with BPD and they were. 

00:47:37 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Identified by other. 

00:47:39 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Therapists in the community, as that’s where we spend our. 

00:47:42 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Borderline referrals. 

00:47:45 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It’s not as good as. 

00:47:46 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

DBT, but it’s a heck of a lot better than just a random. 

00:47:49 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Therapist off of Psychology Today. 

00:47:52 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So any therapist who is? 

00:47:55 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Willing and able to work with borderline and seems. 

00:47:57 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Knowledgeable about it. 

00:47:59 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You know, obviously do your due diligence, ask them questions. 

00:48:02 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Can’t make a guarantee. 

00:48:03 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

But even if somebody’s not running a DVT program, if they are willing and able to work with somebody with borderline and they seem knowledgeable about it, they are likely to be much more effective as a provider. There’s the DBT skills we know. 

00:48:18 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Are very effective. 

00:48:20 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Regardless of how they’re delivered. 

00:48:22 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And there are a lot of new ways there’s. 

00:48:26 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

There’s really good YouTube videos. 

00:48:30 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You can get a workbook. 

00:48:32 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

There’s a lot of different workbooks. 

00:48:34 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

There’s the green book if you really like reading, it’s a great one. 

00:48:36 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

There’s the neurodivergent friendly DBT skills workbook which is laid out a lot different. 

00:48:43 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

There are online DBT classes like skills classes that aren’t. 

00:48:48 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Restricted to location. 

00:48:50 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So I know that there are a couple different places that do, just they do zoom once or twice a week for maybe a much shorter period like a 12 week period. 

00:49:00 

So there’s lots and. 

00:49:01 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Lots of entry points to DVD that. 

00:49:04 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I think the purists would probably. 

00:49:07 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Panic hearing me. 

00:49:11 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

But I do think. 

00:49:13 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And entry points into DBT skills is better than no entry point. 

00:49:19 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It’s better to to learn about it and try it out than to have no access to it whatsoever. 

00:49:26 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

We agreed absolutely have a holding space we can work on things and. 

00:49:32 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

You know, till the time does come where you can get linked up to a formal program, if it’s even. 

00:49:37 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Advantageous at that point, you may find that you work through stuff on your own or with your with your regular therapist anyway, yeah, so well said. 

00:49:46 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And I know you’re welcome information. 

00:49:47 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

That’s why I asked. 

00:49:50 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And I drove through your website and saw you have a great reading list there. 

00:49:53 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

So we’ll take a peek at that in just a second. 

00:49:59 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Yeah. So we’ve established then. 

00:50:01 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

BPD borderline personality disorder is not. 

00:50:06 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

A permanent condition is the the thought, right? 

00:50:11 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Yeah, that most of the symptoms on that diagnostic criteria list, most of those symptoms are learned behavior. 

00:50:20 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And you can unlearn them if you’re put in an environment that is not constantly invalidating. 

00:50:26 

OK. 

00:50:26 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Reparent ourselves. 

00:50:29 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Some help and a good. 

00:50:30 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Support system, yes. 

00:50:33 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Good, good. 

00:50:35 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

So last thought, what have you found to be a catalyst in terms of treatment, right and recovery for or like personalities or by catalyst? 

00:50:47 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I mean like, what do you feel really helps get things moving in the right direction faster? 

00:50:54 

I think. 

00:50:57 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

What I see in the folks I work with is I see kind of. 

00:51:03 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Two points along a journey that tend to. 

00:51:05 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Make a really big difference. 

00:51:08 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

The first one is radical acceptance of the way things are right now because. 

00:51:12 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

That is hard. 

00:51:14 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It is really. 

00:51:15 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Hard, and I often feel almost guilty. 

00:51:18 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Teaching people radical acceptance. 

00:51:20 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And saying like, yeah. 

00:51:21 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It’s garbage alright. 

00:51:24 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Can’t fix it all. 

00:51:25 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Today we’re going to try, but we can like fix Monday time so it’s. 

00:51:28 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Gonna be garbage for a while. 

00:51:30 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And I know that for me, that idea was extremely freeing, but not every I was ready to hear. 

00:51:36 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It when it was presented to me. 

00:51:39 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And so I know for a lot of folks, there’s. 

00:51:41 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

A lot of resistance to radical acceptance and. 

00:51:43 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It makes perfect. 

00:51:44 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

But I do see the first big jump in recovery happening when people go. 

00:51:50 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

OK. 

00:51:52 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I can’t fix it all today, which means I have to accept some of this crap right now. 

00:51:57 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And then I don’t. 

00:51:58 

Have to fight it. 

00:52:00 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And then that frees up so much. 

00:52:01 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Energy and so much space. 

00:52:03 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Where I can just go be a person without having to be so angry at the way things are, just defiantly angry in many. 

00:52:10 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Cases at the. 

00:52:11 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Way things are right. 

00:52:12 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

That’s the first big jump. 

00:52:15 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And then the second big jump comes. 

00:52:19 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Almost all of my clients at one point or another, they’ll come in and they’ll they’ll. 

00:52:24 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

They’ll say. 

00:52:27 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Can can I say like a medium curse word? 

00:52:30 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Of course, yeah, you’re good. 

00:52:32 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

They’ll come in and they’ll. 

00:52:33 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Be like I’m the *******. 

00:52:36 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Like it’s me. 

00:52:37 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It’s not. 

00:52:38 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It’s not all of the time, right? 

00:52:40 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And it’s certainly not. 

00:52:41 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Nobody woke up in the morning and decided. 

00:52:43 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

To be an *******. 

00:52:44 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Nobody was born an. 

00:52:46 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

But they’ll have some experience out in the world between sessions and they’ll realize it was. 

00:52:52 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

That like, maybe the situation wasn’t great, but their behavior really escalated the situation and their behavior was inappropriate for the situation, and when they can realize that without shame, like when they can just come. 

00:53:05 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

In and go like oh. 

00:53:07 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Like this is great information because it’s not happening. 

00:53:10 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

To me, I’m a part of. 

00:53:12 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It and I can change my part of. 

00:53:13 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It and again. 

00:53:15 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It’s it’s not a shaming, blaming moment. 

00:53:19 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It’s truly like, isn’t this great news? 

00:53:22 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Because this means it’s not gonna keep happening to me on like, out of nowhere. 

00:53:26 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I can actually do. 

00:53:27 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Something about it so I. 

00:53:30 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

See, that’s very a non clinical. 

00:53:31 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Way to describe it, but. 

00:53:32 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I love it. 

00:53:33 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I see those two moments. 

00:53:35 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

As really being. 

00:53:36 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

These catalysts for recovery, the first one of radical assumptions is OK, I don’t have to fight every living moment of my day. 

00:53:42 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And then the second one being like oh. 

00:53:46 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

OK, I am. 

00:53:47 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I am a player in this and that means I get to be a player. 

00:53:51 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

In making it a positive situation. 

00:53:55 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Yeah, like you see, with any kind of recovery, right? 

00:53:58 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Big part of it, right, with with 12 step, it’s the Serenity prayer, right. 

00:54:02 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And owning our our, our our role, right with anything with any change that’s necessary. 

00:54:08 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And change is hard enough. 

00:54:10 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Change is hard enough, but until like you said, we free up that mental energy. 

00:54:16 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

To one and we can be comfortable in our own skin a little bit. 

00:54:20 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And then we. 

00:54:20 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Can start to see the options and opportunities. 

00:54:23 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Right, because intense emotion is great television. 

00:54:28 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

That’s why anger isn’t typical. 

00:54:34 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Well, thank you so much, Catherine. 

00:54:36 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Your wealth of information, obviously, which is why I’m so glad you were willing to be on today to. 

00:54:40 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Share this. 

00:54:41 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

With us working, our listeners learn and more about you and the. 

00:54:45 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Work you’re doing. 

00:54:47 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You can find me on Instagram or Facebook at Catherine LCSW and that’s Catherine C. 

00:54:56 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And BP education.com, which is still very much in the works but it. 

00:55:02 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Does have on the blog. 

00:55:03 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You’ll you can find a reading list and you find a resource list. 

00:55:07 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I have a free mailing list you’ll you’ll probably won’t even get an e-mail from me once a. 

00:55:13 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Month but every. 

00:55:13 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Time you do it will have some free resource. 

00:55:15 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

For you, whether it’s a podcast link or a pamphlet or something like that, and when you sign up for the mailing list, you get automatically every freebie. 

00:55:25 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

That I’ve ever put out all at once. 

00:55:28 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So a little bit about explaining BPD. 

00:55:31 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

To the loved one. 

00:55:32 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

How to validate the? 

00:55:32 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Left alone if you have. 

00:55:33 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

BPD the crisis Kid safety plan. 

00:55:35 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And all that good stuff. 

00:55:38 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I like the way your sites organized with. 

00:55:42 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

All the information easy to find right? 

00:55:45 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Easy on the eyes. 

00:55:46 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Good, great information. 

00:55:49 

Thank you. 

00:55:50 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Yeah, it’s wonderful. 

00:55:52 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And that was the mailing list right over here. 

00:55:55 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So if you just go to bpeducation.com, the mailing listing is right there. I just get your first name and your e-mail address and really about 1 less than once a month you’ll. 

00:56:07 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Get a new 3B. 

00:56:08 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

But right away you get everything. 

00:56:10 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Ever gone out? 

00:56:11 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

That’s wonderful. 

00:56:12 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And all your socials at the bottom right, we’ll want to follow you there and learn more. 

00:56:17 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I know your Instagram is blown. 

00:56:21 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It’s the most popular one, and then actually my LinkedIn. 

00:56:24 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Is pretty active as well, but it’s a. 

00:56:27 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It’s a very different audience. 

00:56:28 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

My LinkedIn is mostly other clinicians and my Instagram is mostly followed by folks with BPD or family members. 

00:56:36 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Of folks with BPD. 

00:56:37 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Hi this is your Instagram. 

00:56:39 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Nice, very good. 

00:56:42 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I love how you have your I forgot these are called these highlights. 

00:56:48 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

There you go highlights nice and organized for for your visitors. 

00:56:53 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

That’s great. 

00:56:55 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I can tell you put a lot of of thought and love into the the information you put out so. 

00:57:00 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I appreciate that. 

00:57:01 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Definitely something that. 

00:57:05 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You know, being on social media is such a. 

00:57:09 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Such a double edged sword. 

00:57:11 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Isn’t it? 

00:57:12 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I I really, I really, really enjoy being. 

00:57:16 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Able to put. 

00:57:16 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Out accurate, non stigmatizing information because I know that. 

00:57:21 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

People who are newly diagnosed, they put borderline personality disorder into. 

00:57:24 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Google and they’re heartbroken right away. 

00:57:28 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So I like being able to put out information. 

00:57:30 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

That is higher quality, less stigmatizing. 

00:57:33 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I’m hopeful and. 

00:57:35 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

And also having a big audience. 

00:57:37 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Also means that. 

00:57:38 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

A lot of. 

00:57:38 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

People who have personal opinions about BPD coming by. 

00:57:42 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Me too. Yeah. 

00:57:44 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

So it always means a lot when somebody says they. 

00:57:46 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Can see the work I put into. 

00:57:47 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Yes, well, it does show for sure. 

00:57:49 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And this is a great reading list you have here on your site for. 

00:57:54 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Self education, right? 

00:57:57 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I’ll be sure to Add all this to the description, show notes so that it’s easy to find OK. 

00:58:03 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Alright, thank. 

00:58:04 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

You so much. 

00:58:05 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Of course. 

00:58:05 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Thank you. 

00:58:06 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I really appreciate you being on. 

00:58:08 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Would it be OK if I had you back on down the road? 

00:58:10 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

See how things are coming along. 

00:58:12 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

I would love that. 

00:58:13 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Thank you. 

00:58:14 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Well, thank you, Catherine for your time. 

00:58:16 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I know you’re an hour ahead over there in Utah. 

00:58:19 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

I’m an LA it’s night. 

00:58:20 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Was it you said 15 degrees? 

00:58:21 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Over there so. 

00:58:23 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Ohh ship ohh. 

00:58:25 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

We’ve gone up to. 

00:58:26 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

28 Since this morning, so very. 

00:58:27 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

All right. 

00:58:28 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Nice and warm, right. 

00:58:29 

Take the dog out. 

00:58:32 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Well, you enjoy that nice Winter Wonderland and your day. 

00:58:38 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And I will circle back to you down the road. 

00:58:41 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Always feel free to reach out to anything we can. 

00:58:43 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Do is support your work OK. 

00:58:45 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Thank you so much. 

00:58:46 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

Thank you. 

00:58:46 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

For having me. 

00:58:47 Catherine Humenuk, LCSW, C-DBT 

It’s been such a pleasure. 

00:58:47 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Thank you. 

00:58:48 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

My pleasure. 

00:58:49 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Take care. 

00:58:50 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

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00:58:56 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

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00:59:00 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

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00:59:06 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

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00:59:10 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

And so I hope you found some value and you have some new tools to thrive until next time. 

00:59:16 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Make good things happen. 

00:59:17 Patrick Martin-LCSW 

Bye bye. 

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